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Uplift Gift: Pretend Birthday!


Hello my beautiful friend!

Hey, I have an idea for you of something super simple you can do that will really make someone in your life HAPPY.

For this uplifting and joyful gift, all you need is a birthday card — store bought or homemade — and a date on the calendar to spend time with someone you love.

If you want, you can also add in flowers or a balloon or dressy clothes or bubbles or a tiara or other celebratory sumpthins. But none of these are necessary for this gift to have an impact.


So, what are we up to?

We’re gonna surprise your person with a “Pretend Birthday!”

This is a way of adding some unexpected appreciation and celebration during a time in the world when life can feel really hard.


The Pretend Birthday:

So, what do you do?

Write out your card. And, like I said, if you want to add any extra fun things, get ’em ready.

Then, you show up at the expected time and meeting place and immediately give your person a BIG HUG — if that feels Covid safe!

You immediately hand them the card and say, “Happy Pretend Birthday!” Then add, “In honor of your AMAZINGNESS, we are pretending it is your birthday today. I’m treating you to dinner/lunch/dessert/whatever and we are going to celebrate YOU!”


Then, put on your best extra-special sparkle and charm.

If it feels organic and authentic, tell this person some things you love and appreciate about them.

Ask them if there is any support they need or any way you can be especially helpful.

Really, truly pretend as if it is their birthday and make it SPECIAL in any way that occurs to you.

Note: You could even tell your server at the restaurant that it is your table mate’s birthday and ask for a candle in the dessert!

Why not?!


How fun would it be to do this for someone who isn’t expecting anything but a lovely time with you?

It layers on the love and goodness!


This idea came from a Club House conversation I had with my friend, Elise, a few months ago. We called it, “Let’s Pretend it’s Your Birthday” and we encouraged people to celebrate themselves.

Now, it just so happened that later that same day, I was meeting my friend, Tricia, for a sunset dinner in Sausalito.

I found a birthday card in my box o’ emergency greeting cards and wrote a short message to her.

Then, I did exactly what I said to you: when we sat down, I let her know I was celebrating her pretend birthday and wanted to treat her to dinner.

It was so much fun!


Making these kinds of “I celebrate you” gifts for others has literally changed the shape of my life.

My connections to people have deepened over the years.

I feel more positive because I am on the lookout for unique ways to celebrate.

It is a lifestyle that we can choose.

I want this for you, too.

Hope you will try this uplift gift for someone you love.

I promise you, it will feel like a gift for you, too!

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry


P.S. My book, Say it Now, is filled with dozens more creative ideas like this to celebrate and appreciate people you love!


Lovegram: Open the Door!


Hello and Happy Sunday …

Today I am sending you the happy faces of Arnold and his two brothers — photo above.

I am sending you the quiet ease of a Sunday and the possibility of a shared meal with family or some space alone to read and reflect.

I am sending you renewed enthusiasm for the beauty of a single flower, that resilient old oak tree, or a hummingbird’s zing.


Today, my LoveGram is about the gift of warmth, friendliness, and opening the door to connection. 

Hear today’s Audio LoveGram now! 

Just scroll down on this page until you see the audio player. Click play! Voila!

After you listen to today’s LoveGram, consider some places in your life where you may want to bring a little extra spirited enthusiasm. 

Can you be the one in your family or at work to lift everyone’s mood with your enthusiasm? Can you bring a smile to a stranger’s face on the bus or whom you pass on your walk? 

How would you intentionally bring some extra zest to YOURSELF?

We can practice feeling connected. We can practice feeling energized. We can practice being more open, loving and kind. We can practice small shifts and notice the impact. 

I’ve been creating these Sunday LoveGrams since March of 2020. Having you here with me throughout this pandemic has been so important. Being together in our experiences is truly a gift.

Thank you.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry


P.S. That’s Arnold and his brothers in the photo up above. I was so delighted by their bright energy and joyful demeanors, that I had asked them if I could take a photo of them together. I’m glad I did, because I texted it to Arnold while we were still chatting so they could have a souvenir of their time together. He texted me later and now we can stay connected! Arnold gave me permission to use the photo and share this story with you.


Secret Agents Mission: Fool for Love


Secret Agents are a group of people who aim to spread surreptitious joy and kindness in playful and unexpected ways. 

April 1st is April Fool’s Day and usually it is a time to try and PRANK people.

However, our very own Secret Agent Lynda Allen has chosen to turn this holiday on its head and instead celebrate All-4-1 Day — a day of connection, unity, peace, and goodwill.

Here’s what Lynda says, “Last year around this time, our worlds were getting turned upside down and things seemed pretty dark. I wanted to find a way to encourage myself and others to share their light. You never know when sharing your light might help rekindle someone else’s.

It seemed natural to take advantage of the date itself 4/1 or 1/4, depending on where you live, and let it be our jumping off point for focusing on being All for One and One for All.”


Let’s be Fools for Love and focus on All-4-1! 

Everyone needs your love, light, and stealthy way of adding doses of JOY wherever you go. 



Perhaps you’ve already joined Secret Agents of Change and participated in previous missions? If so, we deeply appreciate your dedicated service! Or, maybe this is your first inkling that such a covert organization exists? If so, a hearty welcome to you!

But in either case: Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer and Sherry Richert Belul invite you to participate in this oh-so-important mission. 

We will post the prompt in our Secret Agents Facebook Group. You can participate anytime on Thursday, April 1st!


LoveGram: Fool for Love

Hello, my beautiful friend.

Today, I send you a thousand more white apple blossoms, which seem to have multiplied with joy overnight.

I send you today’s full moon, which was given the funny name, “Worm Moon.”

I send you the crisp grapes and blue kombucha which I was snacking on just now — fresh and good-morning-ish.

Did you listen to last week’s LoveGram? It was called “Merry Unbirthday” and was all about creating a special occasion on a “nothing day.” (There’s no such thing as a nothing day!)

Today, I have the joy of telling you about a special occasion someone I know invented. It is coming up this week — and you are invited!

Be sure to listen here! Click for today’s Audio LoveGram! (You will need to scroll down on that page until you see the audio player. )


This is our one life. 

We can celebrate BECAUSE we are alive. 

We don’t need any other reason. And we certainly don’t need to earn celebration. 


Thank you for listening, today.

Never forget: you matter.

A lot.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry


💌 P.S. I love to hear from you! Please email me and share your thoughts on today’s audio LoveGram!

💌 P.P.S. Check out info. on the fun event you are invited to — happening this week. It is free. It is social. It is fun. To receive Zoom information or to be notified how to participate if you can’t attend the call — because you CAN still join in the fun!— make sure you join the Secret Agents of Change Community!!! I will email you all you need to know in order to don your Secret Agent cloak and start spreading surreptitious joy.