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LoveGram: Celebration and Sadness

 

Hello beautiful friend. 

Welcome to your Sunday audio LoveGram. 

Today I send you sixteen sunflowers, standing tall. 

I send you the woman crying, who says, “it’s okay I cry; talk to me anyway.”

I send you a scrub jay, a lemon, a fresh bar of soap, a single cypress tree.  

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In today’s LoveGram, we are talking about how sadness and celebration are two sides of the same coin. 

We’re human beings. We get lost and we lose things. We are beauty and we see beautiful things. 

And everything in between. 

(To listen to the audio, just click over to this page, scroll down, and hit “play” on the audio player.)

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If we want to have deep, meaningful, and connected relationships in our lives, we have to learn how to be together in the hardest of times. And also the happy times, too. 

We have to be willing to accept that it is all a part of being human. 

But most of us weren’t taught how to do this! 

Today, I talk about the practice of allowing ourselves to feel the whole range of human emotions and not to judge ourselves for any of them. 

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I think we do ourselves a huge disservice in our lives when we think that life needs to be black and white, or when we think that our emotions need to be this or that. We’re so complex. 

What if we stopped fighting it?

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Thank you for being here and showing up for all of it — for the ups and downs and everything in between. 

When we are open to celebrating ALL of life, it allows us the spaciousness to find connection and meaning in the hardest of times and also in the happy times. 

Flip! Two sides. Same coin. 

Listen to your audio LoveGram now. 

Thank you for your beautiful heart. 

Thank you for wanting to love and be loved as best you can. 

I’m grateful to be on this journey with you. 

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. I love this new podcast on grief by Anderson Cooper. It is tender and filled with love for humankind. 

P.P.S. Just a reminder that any loss in your life can be filled with grief — death, illness, divorce, miscarriage, empty nest, job loss, alienation from a friend, etc. If you feel something as sadness or grief, I hope you honor it, seek support, and let it move through you. 

LoveGram: What’s to Celebrate?

 

Hello beautiful friend. 

Welcome to your Sunday audio LoveGram

Today I send you tiki lamps, string lights, and sunflowers. 

I send you a gal in a pink wig and a guy in a pork pie hat on a green tandem bike. 

I send you cream-colored vintage luggage on the steps of a blue and red cottage. 

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In today’s LoveGram, we are talking about something the world really needs right now: celebration and play! 

In my audio, I share with you some insights I had after making a list of some “must-haves” for my birthday last week. I hadn’t realized that these weren’t just fun party things, they were truly an elixir for my spirit. 

(To listen to the audio, just click over to this page, scroll down, and hit “play” on the audio player.)

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Here’s what I want you to know: 

Celebration isn’t just for birthdays or other special occasions. 

Celebration doesn’t have to be earned. 

Celebration isn’t just for when we’re feeling happy. 

Celebration is essential for us to create meaning in our lives and to make moments memorable. 

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After the last two years of so much grief, loss, and disappointment, it is time for us to bring some play and celebration to ourselves and others. 

How will you do that? 

Here are a few questions that may spark some thoughts on your own brand of celebration:

  • When was the last time you celebrated something?
  • What needs to happen for you to plan a celebration? 
  • What kinds of things help you to feel celebratory?
  • What settings feel like a celebration? 
  • Who are your favorite people to celebrate with?
  • Have you ever celebrated something or someone when you were sad? 
  • In the next two weeks, what celebration is coming up? How will you plan for it? 
  • Would you consider celebrating “just because?” What would that look like? 

 

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I today’s audio I share more ideas with you about creating memorable moments for yourself and people you love.

Listen to your audio LoveGram now! 

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Be willing to step out of the same-ole, same-ole and create some magic. 

You will be so happy that you did! 

I can’t wait to hear!! 

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. Save the date for Saturday, October 15th at 9am PT/12n ET for our next Secret Agents of Change Mission. Make sure you are signed up on our email list so you receive the information on how to participate. 

{Celebration Superstar} Love as Medicine

 

Hello. Sending hugs. I hope you are doing okay, my friend.

As I’m writing this to you, we’re receiving heartbreaking news from Ukraine. I hesitated about whether to send this out.

In a world full of bombs and killings, how can we even think about anything else? How can we consider celebration?

After much thought, I came to the same conclusion I always do, which is that in the face of violence, grief, and hatred, LOVE can be medicine.

LOVE can make us generous. LOVE can fortify us so we can be there for others. LOVE can give us strength to take right action, whatever that looks like for each of us.

When heartbreaking things are happening in the world, they can be a reminder to us to live our love out loud even more.

I really believe that if we allow ourselves to feel love, appreciation, and celebration — no matter what — we remind ourselves of our humanity and we can find the strength to support our worldwide community in previously unexpected or unseen ways.

LOVE can open us to new frontiers of generosity. Let’s go there, together.

The world needs us.

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In light of that, today I want you meet someone in our community who is always bringing love, laughter, and color to the world. Her name is Deanna Bowers.

Deanna is pictured up above and you can see what I mean by color, right?!

I originally met Deanna through an online group of people called “Fluezies” who love a brand of shoes called Fluevogs. (“Unique soles for unique souls.”)

While it may sound somewhat frivolous and shallow to love shoes, my experience of Fluezies, is that they are creative, art-loving, courageous, heart-centered people who want to bring more joy into the world.

Over and over again, I’ve watched members of this community launch loving initiatives in the world to help people are who grieving or ill. I’ve watched them support humanity from a place of compassion and care. I’ve watched them bring joy when it is darkest.

Our Celebration Superstar, Deanna, represents all of those things 👆  — and more. She’s like a beautiful red poppy growing from a tiny crack in blocks of gray cement.

I could honor Deanna simply for the celebration she brings to life through her whimsical and artsy clothes. She wears joy so well! She lifts people’s spirits every day by being a walking rainbow.

However, what you need to know about her is that she is a teacher who cares deeply about her students, she is a friend who loves way beyond the norm, and she is someone whose heart is always open and generous.

Deanna brings to life one of the aspects of “Say it Now,” that I treasure the most: she sees so much goodness and beauty in people and she is courageous enough to tell them so. She uses her creativity to express her love.

And she often writes me to tell me about it!

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Here are some Deanna-inspired celebrations — just a few of countless ones she creates:

  • She and the students in her class painted a happy “Thank You” poster to the custodian at the school to let him know how much he mattered and was appreciated.
  • She surprised her husband with dinner at one of the restaurants they frequented during their courtship and she gave him a Love List stack of Polaroid Photos with loving thoughts and memories written on each one.
  • She painted a spirited and colorful portrait of a friend as a surprise in order to help her friend see herself as beautifully as others see her. (It is pictured on page 91 of my book, Say It Now!)
  • She also painted a watercolor for her mom. She shared it with me. And she also told me, “I couldn’t get to the post office until after school was out. I cried because I knew my gift was going to be late for mom’s birthday. So, I wrote a Love List on the envelope to let her know how much I care.”
  • She inspired one of her students to create a 52-item Love List on a deck of playing cards.

(Scroll down to see a few photos that Deanna has sent me over time!)

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Bravo, Deanna! What a Celebration Superstar, right?

Please join me today in celebrating Deanna.

I hope her story might inspire YOU in some brand new way this week.

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Listen, this pandemic has weighed us all down with so much grief, illness, and discouragement. Everything happening in Ukraine is terrifying and heartbreaking. Every day we hear new stories of grief, violence, and tragedy.

Our world needs us to be loving medicine. Every day.

YOU can be the one to lift others up.

YOU can be the one to bring tiny moments of joy.

Will you consider some ways you might love out loud or wear your joy the way Deanna does?

The more we lift our own spirits and create energy, the more we have to give to people around the world who are suffering.

Please notice what wants to come through you. Notice the little nudges you get. Follow them. Trust them.

Look for the sparkles and tiny pinpricks of light. They will lead you to that experience of generosity and compassion.

I love you and am cheering you on, always.

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Thanks for who you are.

YOU MATTER!

Your LOVE matters.

Seek celebration — even in the dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. Below are a few photos that Deanna has shared with me and given me permission to share with YOU!

 

 

 

 

 

LoveGram: Tap into This!

 

Hello beautiful friend!

Today I send you the mini-carnations I  bought on a whim at the grocery store. According to my paint chip color wheel, their color is “pink ladies.”

I send you something that catches your eye — and that you say “yes” to as a way to celebrate your beautiful self.

I send you the waltz from “Amelie,” which you can listen to for free online because of this magical world we live in.

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My audio LoveGram for today is more conversation about how we learn to love better.

Today, we continue our conversation from last week about how we can choose to intentionally prioritize the people in our life and how we practice this day by day.

(To listen to the audio, just click over to this page, scroll down, and hit “play” on the audio player.)

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I’m going to keep the written part of today’s LoveGram short because I want you to listen to the recording. (Sometimes I give it all away in writing, don’t I?!)

I think there’s some good stuff to think about. And I would love to hear YOUR thoughts after you listen.

Some questions we are exploring today:

* Can we learn from method actors how we can self-identify as people who are great at loving others?

* What keeps us from celebrating ourselves and all the good things we do and are?

* Do we celebrate others when good things happen for them?

(Oh, and if you missed last week’s LoveGram, you can find it here.)

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Hey, I know that the past two years have been filled with grief, loss, loneliness, and disappointment.

I understand.

I also know that this is exactly why the people in our lives really need us to tap into the part of us that is willing to see them, uplift them, and celebrate them.

It’s all too easy to connect by complaining or commiserating about the hard stuff. 

We can find a different way to connect. 

We can connect through meaningful conversation, through appreciation, and through intentional celebration of what is good. 

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Thank you for sharing my values of appreciation, love, and celebration.

Thank you for being someone who cares about creating more color and celebration for yourself and for others.

Part of today’s LoveGram was sparked by someone in our community reaching out with her thoughts. If you think there are other aspects to loving better that we could explore, email me!

I’m grateful to you for being by my side. As Ram Dass says so perfectly, “We are all just walking each other home” — through this pandemic and beyond!

I’m here for you.

I see your beautiful heart.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. Here’s that waltz from the movie, Amelie. It is called Comptine d`un autre ete – l`apres-midi. So beautiful!

 

{Celebration Superstar} Meet Christina!

 

I hope you are having a good week, my friend. I hope you are feeling loved and that every day you’ve been noticing something beautiful in the world, maybe a tiny bird or someone’s smile.

If this hasn’t been such a good week, I hope that there’s someone in your life who gives great hugs. And I hope you’ve been extra kind and gentle to yourself. I hope you make some tea with honey. I hope you go look at the stars and wear your favorite knitted scarf. 

No matter how you are feeling when you read this email, I hope it makes you smile and remember that, no matter what, we can create a tiny bit of celebration. (Even when things feel dark and hard. Especially then!)

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Do you remember last week when I wrote to you about the joy of creating a Super Supper?

(No problem if you don’t remember. Click here to read!)

A few days after I sent it, I received a note from Christina Shook, a friend whom I’ve known for more than 20 years.

Christina wrote to tell me about a “Fakesgiving Celebration” she hosted! (Don’t you just love that name?!)

Christina told me that she’d seen some turkeys on sale at the market and so she bought one. She said, “Then we invited some new friends over for dinner. We did the whole (but simplified) Thanksgiving dinner thing — stuffing, green beans, cranberry sauce. We set the table fancy, too, of course. It was a hoot!”

You can imagine how delighted I was to hear Christina’s story.

I immediately emailed her back and asked, “What do you think it was that enabled you to go from ‘Let’s have turkey’ to ‘Let’s have Fakesgiving?’ How did you make that delightful leap?”  

Christina responded, “The leap from turkey to Thanksgiving seemed like a clear path. What are you going to do with 20 pounds of turkey?! You kinda have to share it. Turkey is a naturally celebratory dish that must be shared!”

She said, “One thing leads to another, just like how you described your Super Supper. It’s like that book, If you Give a Mouse a Cookie…”

(Ha ha. In that book, a boy gives a cookie to a mouse and it leads to a glass of milk and a straw and more … and more!)

Christina gave some details: “First the turkey. Then the guests. Then the big tablecloth. Then the candles. Pretty soon you’ve got a Fakesgiving happening!”

She said, “Our friends enjoyed it entirely and they brought the pies. And, of course, we all expressed gratitude and made toasts— which you kinda have to do, with the whole table set with bounty and friends.”

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Bravo, Christina! What a Celebration Superstar, right? She took an ordinary turkey and turned it into an extraordinary Fakesgiving dinner filled with special touches, joy, gratitude, toasts, and bounty! 

Here are some elements of this story that delight me:

  • Christina followed each of the little ideas that dropped in. She didn’t say, “Nah, that’s too much trouble to get out the good tablecloth or to dig out the candles.”
  • Christina named the event. Sometimes, simply putting a name to something cements it in our minds as unique and special. We see it differently.
  • Christina invited others into the joy.
  • Christina made sure to pause during that dinner — offering toasts! — to acknowledge the moment and to intentionally celebrate her friends and the bounty.
  • Christina knew that her story would make me happy, so she took the time to write and tell me, thus spreading even more joy!

[Here’s a message just for her: Christina, I am celebrating YOU today! I love this story. I love that you followed the bread crumb trail of creating joy! Woot woot!]

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  • I also want to celebrate a couple other things that I know about Christina. For one, that she is a talented photographer who intentionally brings beauty, love, and compassion to her work.
  • I am also celebrating that she is a caring and loving mother and wife. Through the years, she’s always kept family at the center of her world and have made people a priority in her life.
  • Christina has also been a living example of “Say it Now,” by reaching out to me often to thank me for my work or to request a letter for someone during my Birthday Kindness Project.

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Please join me today in celebrating Christina.

I hope her story might inspire YOU in some brand new way this week. Will you allow a Give a Mouse a Cookie experience to come to life in some unexpected way?  

Listen, this pandemic has weighed us all down with so much grief, illness, and discouragement.

YOU can be the one to lift others up. YOU can be the one to bring tiny moments of you. They don’t have to look like a big ole turkey and a table full of friends. Those moments can be 100% unique to YOU. 

I started this letter to you with the word, “notice.” I want to end it with that same really important word.

Please notice what wants to come through you. Notice the little nudges you get. Follow them. Trust them.

Look for the sparkles and tiny pinpricks of light. They will lead you to that experience of turning ordinary days into an extraordinary life. 

I love you and am cheering you on, always.

Thanks for who you are. YOU  MATTER!

Seek celebration — even in the dark corners,

xo Sherry

LoveGram: What is Possible?

 

Hello Friend!

Today I send you the sunrise.

I send you a fluffy, yellow,  baby chick.

I send you an unexpected check in the mail.

I send you a hot loaf of bread, fresh out of the oven.

I send you a shiny, red RESET button.

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Today’s audio LoveGram is all about new possibility.

It is about YOU possibility.

I hope you will listen to this audio and join me in a 2022 restart.

To hear it, simply click here. Then, scroll down on that page you’re taken to until you see the audio player and the download link. You can listen right there or download to listen on the go!

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We are two weeks into the brand new year called 2022 and my LoveGram today is all about allowing ourselves — no wait, more than that—commanding ourselves to step into what is possible.

I know these past two years have been filled with grief, illness, and fear. I know that you and your family may be discouraged and disappointed. I know it is hard.

But listen, you are here, reading my words, for a reason.

Right?

Something called to you about my mission of feeling more celebration and appreciation.

Something in you knows that there is beauty in our lives, even when we are sad, scared, or uncertain.

Something in you resonates with my own story of that deep depression, when the only thing that saved me was a single pinprick of light. And then the next. And the next.

One moment at a time.

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Honeybun, I see your beautiful heart and I understand your deep desire to keep on finding the goodness and the joy in life.

I’m calling on you to step up and be an ambassador of love, appreciation, and celebration.

I’m imploring you to be the person in your community who speaks about the beauty you see, who expresses gratitude, who makes people laugh.

(By the way, I suspect you already are that person, aren’t you? Think about it. Maybe you simply need to acknowledge it more. Or maybe you need to lean into it more.)

The world needs you.

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So, my friend, let’s all join hands and ask this question together: “What is possible in this next moment of time?”

That’s all I am asking of you: to look at this next moment and consider what kind of love, what kind of appreciation, and what kind of light you can bring.

Here are three possibilities for you:

  • If you’re having a hard time and everything feels bleak, what one tiny movement is possible in order to bring yourself a little comfort or uplift?
  • If you’ve got a little bit of energy and you feel okay, what is possible in order to bring some light and love to one other person?
  • If you are feeling great, what is possible in order to bring that bright energy to a group of people?

2022 is a brand new set of pages on our calendars. Demand of yourself a brand new outlook.

We can be the ones to help set a tone that is positive and joyful. Even if the world doesn’t look exactly like we hoped it would right now.

I hope you’ll listen to today’s LoveGram.

And I hope that you will fuel 2022 with renewed beauty and joy.

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I love you and am so grateful to you.

Thank you for being by my side throughout this pandemic.

Thank you for choosing to step out of the cookie cutter life and be courageous enough to live out loud who you really are.

Who you are is absolutely amazing. (Even when you don’t think so.)

You make a difference. (Even when you don’t think so.)

You MATTER! (Even when you don’t think so.)

I KNOW SO! 

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. Want to read more about ways to start anew in 2022? Check out my latest guest post on Kind Over Matter: Re-Start, Re-Set, Re-Emerge. I give some practical how-to’s!

 

 

LoveGram: Keep Breathing

 

Good morning my beautiful friend.

Thank you for being with me on this human journey.

Thank you for being someone who cares about loving and growing and allowing.

Thank you for being someone who shows up for yourself and for everything Life offers — all the grief and all the celebration and everything in between.

Today, I send you the tall, bold red hibiscus bloom that opened up unexpectedly — almost before my very eyes.

Today, I send you the words, “keep breathing,” from a song that showed up for me this morning. I send you the understanding that sometimes, sometimes, sometimes, that is all we can do. Sometimes, we can only keep breathing … and trust that we will get righted again from whatever has knocked us over.

Today I send you the taste of a chocolate truffle, this one spiced pumpkin. The next one, hazelnut.

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This week’s LoveGram emerged — once again as they often do!— from a song that Life gifted me with unexpectedly this morning.

The song is called, “Keep Breathing,” and it is from an album named, “Be Okay.”

Gotta love that, right? {insert smile here!}

To hear the audio LoveGram, click on the link, then scroll down on the page it sends you to, you’ll see the audio player.

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Last week, when you received my LoveGram, I was flying to Colorado to visit my dear friend, Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer. I shared with you a poem. I want you to hear it again.

I want you to pay attention to what happens for us when we repeat poems, prayers, or wisdoms.

What do we hear anew?

What layers get revealed that we missed?

In the case of today’s LoveGram, I invite us all to explore even more deeply what it means to live in a human body, experiencing grief and celebration.

And everything in between.

Can we allow ourselves the whole range of feelings and experiences?

Here’s the poem for you again:

Strange Bedmates

By Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer

grief and celebration

share the same bed—

one keeps stealing the blanket

the other

keeps knitting a beautiful new one

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There you have it. Grief and celebration. Two sides of the same human coin.

To me, being present in all of the feelings of being human, to allow ourselves the whole range of human experience is authentic celebration.

We must let ourselves feel the 10,000 joys and the 10,000 sorrows. We can help each other through the heavy, hard ones and we can celebrate together in the light ones.

I encourage you to allow it all. Accept it all.

Keep breathing through it all.

Keep breathing, even in the darkest moments.

Keep breathing in the sunlight.

You are okay. Be okay.

Thank you for being by my side for this journey.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

Celebration Superstar

 

In this week’s audio LoveGram, I tell you all about Carolyn and why she is such a Celebration Superstar.

Here’s the gist of it: Carolyn is someone who really FEELS life. She usually wears her emotions on her sleeve and it is a beautiful thing to get to experience.

All around us, people are walking around pretending that they don’t care, that things don’t impact them, that it is just another ho-hum day.

Carolyn reminds us that to be human is to experience life by allowing all our emotions.

Carolyn is touched by life, and when we are in her presence, we get to be touched by life, too.

It is, to me, a true form of authentic celebration.

You’ll hear more about Carolyn in the audio LoveGram if you click the link up above. 

LoveGram: Grief and Celebration

 

Today I send you that feeling when it is pouring outside, and you hear the crash of thunder, but you are safe and warm in your favorite reading chair.

I send you that feeling of enjoying a double scoop of ice-cream when suddenly the top scoop shploops to the ground, leaving you with that momentary sense of how things slip can away before our very eyes.

I send you the way it feels to be grieving the death of someone you deeply love and you remember a funny story so you tell it to your best friend and you both laugh, even while the tears are still wet on your face.

 

💥💓💥

 

Today’s LoveGram is based on a poem by my dear friend, Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer. Here’s the poem I read in my audio LoveGram.

To hear the audio LoveGram, click on the link, then scroll down on the page it sends you to, you’ll see the audio player.

Here’s the poem I read in that audio:

Strange Bedmates

By Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer

 

grief and celebration

share the same bed—

one keeps stealing the blanket

the other

keeps knitting a beautiful new one

 

💥💓💥

 

There you have it. Grief and celebration. Two sides of the same human coin.

I didn’t plan any of this. But it just so happens that I am creating this LoveGram for you Friday morning because I am traveling to see Rosemerry this weekend. When you receive this on Sunday morning, I will be on a plane to Colorado to not only see my friend, but actually meet her in person for the very first time.

My meeting Rosemerry is everything that I am talking to you about in today’s audio. I am traveling to be with her in grief over the biggest loss imaginable. I am traveling to be with her in what hopefully will be a circle of tremendous love and light as her friends gather for her birthday.

To me, being present in all of the feelings of being human, to allow ourselves the whole range of human experience is authentic celebration.

We must let ourselves feel the 10,000 joys and the 10,000 sorrows. We can help each other through the heavy, hard ones and we can celebrate together in the light ones.

 

💥💓💥

 

Today’s LoveGram is also based on my October Celebration Superstar, Carolyn. I tell you a little about her in my audio. But for those of you who may not listen, what you need to know about her is that she is a superstar at being a human being. Carolyn’s emotions live at the surface and they spring out all the time. She used to apologize for crying so much and so easily. I hope she doesn’t do that anymore.

Because she is a shining example of allowing the whole range of human emotions to live in her.

Carolyn is in my coaching group and I have had the opportunity over the past year and a half to watch her BE HUMAN in such an authentic way. To me, this is the celebration.

In a world where people walk around, noses in their electronic devices, we can go hours before seeing expressions of humanness. Think about how a spontaneous bright smile, the sudden springing forth of tears, or even the flash of anger can connect us to our hearts and to our humanness.

I encourage you to allow yourself to feel.

Allow yourself to be human.

Because, you know what? You are a fabulous human being. I love you.

Thank you for being by my side for this journey.

 

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. Subscribe to Rosemerry’s daily poem here.

P.P.S. The music I played at the start of my audio LoveGram.

 

 

LoveGram: Not always about the confetti (take 2)

 

Hello, beautiful friend.

Here’s what I want to remind you about today: you do not have to earn celebration.

Celebration is not just for special occasions.

It is your birthright to celebrate the whole range of emotions. To celebrate being human.

Yeah, confetti is great. Balloons are fun. Champagne and bubbles of all kinds are festive. But you do not have to be or feel festive in order to celebrate.

Authentic celebration can be as simple as whispering to ourselves, “What do you need, honey?” It can be turning our face toward the sun, even when everything in us feels clouded over with sadness or fear. It can be calling a friend, like I did earlier this week, to say “I am feeling sad and crabby all at once. Can you help?” 

Celebration can be the connection we feel to someone else when we ask for help and they stand by our side and suddenly things just feel a little more okay.

So, my audio LoveGram today is about helping ourselves find tiny moments to celebrate, no matter what.

Click the word, LoveGram up above and when you land on my web page, scroll down until you see the audio player. Then, press play to listen or download to hear on the go.

Hey, this is the quote I read to you on the audio: “Be kind; for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” (This is attributed to several different people: Ian Maclaren, Plato, or Philo.)

Here’s your challenge this week: Can you experience celebration in your own life in times when you are not happy or you didn’t win or it isn’t a special occasion? 

I’m here with you in these still challenging and uncertain pandemic times. We are in this together. Sharing our experiences helps.

Thank you for being here with me.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry