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LoveGram: Sending love backward

 

Hey there, beautiful friend! I am thinking of you and sending love.

Today I send you a letter postmarked from the future, addressed to your beautiful now self.

I send you the whispers of the willow trees, “hello, hello, hello” as you pass.

I send you a wave of well-being, the sun on your face and a small butterfly flitting by.

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Welcome to your Sunday audio LoveGram.

Today’s LoveGram was inspired by an event I attended called “Love Letters for Vincent,” which was described so beautifully as “An online salon of love and memory on the anniversary of Vincent Van Gogh’s death, weaving together his exquisite and vibrant paintings with music and poetry inspired by his artwork by pianist/composer Kayleen Asbo and poet Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer.”

Van Gogh was not a commercial success in his lifetime, he was lonely and struggled with severe depression and poverty. He shot himself and died at age 37.

The art salon was held on July 29, the anniversary of Van Gogh’s death.

It was intended as a way to send love back across the decades — hoping that this love, compassion, and appreciation would touch Van Gogh and let him know he is beloved.

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What does that have to do with you, my friend?

Well, this: maybe you can send some love backward, too. Maybe there is a part of you who needs the kind of healing and love we all practiced sending to Van Gogh?

Is there a small child who was scared every night when the lights went out? Is there a fifth grader who felt left out and whose friends abandoned her for others? Did you long for something you never got? Did you try something and fell flat on your face? Is there a teenage you, who was left crying in her room after a bad breakup? Did you have an alcoholic parent and your life felt unstable? Were you sick and missed a big part of childhood? Did kids make fun of you?

Was there a you, way back when, who could really use some love from the you, right here and now?

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Today’s LoveGram is an encouragement to send a big dose of love to that part of you.

When you listen to my 15-minute audio LoveGram, you will hear more about this.

(To listen to the audio, just click over to this page, scroll down, and hit “play” on the audio player.)

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If this all sounds a little too woo-woo, you can just look at it like this: any time we send love in any shape or form, we are the first recipients. It is an elixir for our soul.

So, even if you don’t believe we can send love letters to Vincent Van Gogh or to parts of ourselves, maybe you believe in the simple healing power of being love?

I hope so.

And I bet so. Because you are here, hanging around with me and others just like me in this community.

We are all tending to our hearts and tending to the hearts and spirits of people around us.

That’s who we are. That’s what we do.

I’m glad to be here with you!

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. I didn’t plan it, but I like that last week’s LoveGram was “Advance Love” and this one is “Backward Love.”

LoveGram: Advance love for your future self.

 

Hello Friend!

Today I send you a love letter you mail to yourself.

I send you clean sheets that smell like lilac, which you luxuriate in when you crawl into bed, exhausted.

I send you a song on the radio, one that you love from long ago, which you hear unexpectedly, and it brings a smile to your face.

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Welcome to your weekly audio LoveGram.

In today’s LoveGram, we talk about some ways to think about how we can support our future self, especially if there might be bumpy roads ahead.

How can we prepare in advance to offer unbounded support and extra special attention to the self who may need it?

(To listen to the audio, just click over to this page, scroll down, and hit “play” on the audio player.)

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You can be on the offensive by declaring this a new chapter. Name it for yourself. Plan it.

Or, if it isn’t yet time for the new chapter, let this be an official period of transition/grief.

Don’t push yourself to go too quickly through your experience. It is so essential that we feel our feelings and process whatever loss or hardship is alive in us right now. There’s no rush. Be human!

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You’ll hear in today’s LoveGram that I’m kinda doing both at once! I’m letting myself feel everything that wants to run through me, whenever it arises. I’m reaching out to friends and leaning in on their love.

AND, I’m setting up an autumn “Advance Love” program for myself.

I’ve created a list of books I want to read that I know will support the ways I want to grieve and grow. I’ve listed a few projects that I will complete. I’ve also made a list of some new skills I want to learn. And finally, I’ve brainstormed some ways I can be out in the real world, meeting people live again and volunteering.

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Here are some ways you can plan to love yourself — now, next week, or next month— whenever it is time for the next stage of your healing:

  • Buy a beautiful journal for yourself that you will fill with love.
  • Make some audio recordings that let that future you know you care and understand.
  • Make a playlist of comforting or uplifting music.
  • Research meet-up groups where you might get to know new friends.
  • Create a list of books to read that you know will support you.
  • Enlist a friend for exercise accountability.
  • Reach out for places to volunteer.
  • Think about a musical instrument you would like to learn.
  • Make a list of projects that would feel great to complete.
  • List places you’d like to clear free of clutter.

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My dear friend, I know that the past two years have been filled with grief, loss, loneliness, fear, and disappointment.

I understand.

I also know that this is exactly why we all must fortify ourselves.

This is why we must offer ourselves unlimited kindness now — and why we must plan advance love, too!

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

LoveGram: You are worth it.

Hello Friend,

Welcome to this week’s LoveGram.

If you’ve read my last few emails, you might remember that I’ve pre-scheduled these emails for you while I am traveling. (At the time you receive this, I will be visiting my friend Tamara in Cascais, Portugal!)

I want you to know that I’m here and I care.

In fact, last week’s audio LoveGram was all about “Advance Love” — and how planning is a form of love for ourselves and others.

If you missed it, you can listen here.

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Typically, on Sundays, I send you an audio message. However, today I am sending just this written LoveGram for you.

It is a form of kindness to myself that sometimes I take a break. In this case, since I’m preparing for my trip, I pre-scheduled one audio LoveGram and one written one.

So, I have a special request for you: I want you to make yourself an audio recording.

If you’ve been following along with me, you’ve listened to my audios for two years now, ever since the pandemic began. You’ve heard the way I turn on the recorder and just … talk.

I let whatever wants to be seen or said rise to the surface and get recorded.

Often, important observations or insights from the past week will bubble up.

I was just talking to my friend, Tricia, about this. How in conversations (even ones with ourselves, on a recorder) we see things that we missed the first time around. Often, all of the dots seem to connect. Our minds can assimilate various touchstones, images, and little wisdoms.

It is a gift to me to record LoveGrams for you every week because I get to learn what is important to me — things that were waiting for me to open the door and let them in!

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You can do this for yourself.

All you have to do is open up the app on your phone called “Voice Memos” or click on this website and then press PLAY.

You don’t have to prepare anything. You don’t have to have a speech ready. You don’t even have to make any sense.

The whole point is to allow yourself some space to listen to what is inside you that wants to be heard.

Just do what I do. Once you turn on the recorder, say “Hello beautiful friend. I’m here with you. This is what’s on my mind …” Then, just watch and be in wonder at what comes out.

Can you do this?

Will you do this?

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The reason I named this LoveGram, “You are worth it,” is because if you try this, you are essentially acknowledging that you matter. You are valuing your own insights and hidden wisdoms. You are trusting your own voice.

You. Are. Worth. It.

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Now, I realize while I write this, that very few people will actually do this.

However, I hope that YOU are one of the ones who do!

You’ll be gifting yourself with your own voice. With your own love.

We are here on this planet for such a relatively short amount of time. Our lives are fleeting.

AND, so much is happening in and around us all the time. There’s a whole beautiful, wonderful, amazing world that is YOU.

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Be someone who values yourself.

Make yourself an audio LoveGram.

Do it even if it is uncomfortable or feels weird. Who cares?!

So many good things are waiting for us, outside of our comfort zones. Push through and see what happens!

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I love you. I’m here with you.

I’m rooting for you!

Thank you for being on this journey of love, celebration, and appreciation with me.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

{Bookstore events} C’mon over!


Hello, friend.

I want to invite you to come hang out with me at two very-quickly-upcoming bookstore events!

And guess what? I’ll also be joined by the wonderful, oh-so-wise, author and poet Mary Anne Radmacher. You may know Mary Anne for her many books and teachings. She’s a gem.

You’ve also likely seen this quote: “Courage does not always soar, sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, “I will try again tomorrow.” Yep, that’s Mary Anne.

C’mon over to New Renaissance Bookshop tomorrow, March 6th, at 12n PST/3pm EST for a conversation about “When Intentions Collide: How to Set Loving Boundaries.”  

Or, if that doesn’t work, take a jaunt to Northern California to Towne Center Books on Monday, March 8th at 11am PST/2pm EST for another Mary Anne and me conversation, “Making Time for Intentional Living + Loving.”

Don’t worry, you don’t have to fly or get in the car. You don’t have to find a sitter for the kids. You don’t have to even get dressed! 

These are virtual events, of course! Woot woot!

You can come as you are. You can choose to join in the conversation by asking questions/commenting — or not. You can participate in whatever works for you.

I’ve posted the event descriptions below in case you want to know more.

I hope to see you tomorrow afternoon or on Monday for some great conversation. 

 

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo

Sherry

 

LoveGram: Wide Sky Perspective

This week’s LoveGram is all about perspective and asking ourselves new questions! 

I wanted to share with you that perspective that happens when it is possible to be someplace new — and to see possibility in the wide skies.

Here’s the link to this week’s audio — just for you! 

I hope you will find some time to walk, rest, and relax while you listen.

And please please do consider where it is that you can go to dream — it can even be in your own backyard! It just needs to feel expansive and possible. That’s my wish for you today!

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry