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Secret Agents of Change: Operation Reinvent the Valentine


If you’ve been hanging around me for any length of time, you know that periodically I let you know about a fun Random Acts of Kindness project that I host with poet Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer.

We call ourselves the Secret Agents of Change and we are a group of people who aim to spread surreptitious joy and kindness in playful and unexpected ways. 

You’re invited to participate in an upcoming secret mission, on Monday February 14th.

One of the twists of what we do is that our missions are always based on one of Rosemerry’s poems. AND, even though these are secret missions, we do spill the (happy) beans together in our Facebook Group after the operation is complete!


Valentine’s Day is one of the Hallmark holidays that can joyful and romantic, for sure. AND, it can be a hard day for people who are grieving, ill, lonely, or lost. It can be any of those things and anything in between. 

We invite you to a mission in which we get to find creative (and stealthy) ways to express love — perhaps in some unexpected places.


Let’s Reinvent the Valentine!

Here’s how it works: Rosemerry shares a poem and Sherry offers a simple, easy-to-execute, hopefully-enjoyable prompt to send you out into the day with purpose and love — and a bit of creativity, too.


There are two ways to participate in our February 14th Mission: 

Join Live when we announce the mission! 

Join a live Zoom call with Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer and Sherry on Monday morning, 2/14/22, from 8:30- 9:30am PST (9:30-10:30am MST, 10:30-11:30am CST, and 11:30-12:30pm EST) and we’ll not only share a poem and announce the mission, but we will also have some time to connect and share ideas.

(Think of it like a Secret Agent Social Club!)

Please join us live if you can; we’d love to see your beautiful Secret Agent faces and feel your stealthy, loving, ninja awesome agent energy while we are on live.

(Or, if you prefer to join audio-only or lurking-only, those are just fine, too!)


Join via Replay! 

We will post the prompt in our Secret Agents Facebook Group. You can participate anytime on Monday.

No matter which way you participate, you’ll report back in our Facebook Group at the end of the day to let us know how your mission went.

You matter! Your participation is important to us! We LOVE your stories of missions-accomplished. We love the good news feel of your reports.

Gratefully your Spymaster + celebrator,



P.S. If Valentine’s Day might be kind of a hard day for you, I hope you will join us for the live call, even if you don’t want to participate in the mission. I’ll tell you why: just hearing Rosemerry read a poem is a huge pick-me-up.  AND, this is a warm, loving community that will make you feel like you are wrapped up in a comfy quilt. We don’t keep tabs on anyone — you could show up simply to feel some love for yourself. That would be a wonderful secret agent mission in itself: self care!

P.P.S. If you’re interested in being a part of these secret agent missions, sign up on this mailing list to make sure you get notified + receive the Zoom link.


55-55-55 Birthday Kindness Project



It’s that time of year again!

My 55-55-55 Birthday Kindness Projects kicked off on Friday.

Every year for the past seven years, I have been sending letters of love and kindness to strangers as a way of celebrating my birthday.

The first year I did this, I wrote as many letters as the age I was becoming, in that number of hours. 48 letters to 48 strangers in 48 hours. Yikes! I don’t think I got any sleep those two days, trying to finish so many letters. It was exhilarating. But also, frankly, exhausting.

Starting the next year, I got a little smarter and changed it to “writing as many letters as the age I am becoming in that many days.” Ahhhh. Much more sane. As well, I quickly noticed that the sense of connection and quiet joy extended to a much longer period. I like that I’m immersed in this expansion of love for nearly a couple of months.

I turn 55 on October 2. If my math is correct, which I hope it is, Friday was Day One.

As always, I need your help.

Do you know someone who is lonely, lost, grieving, or blue? Someone who is going through a difficult time right now and could use a boost of love? 

The way this works is that I have you email me that person’s name and snail mail address. I also ask that you share just a few sentences about what they are going through and also what you love best about this person. Lastly, I need to know if you want the love letter to be sent anonymously from the Universe, or on your behalf.

I’ve already put out a call for the first ten letters — which went out to my Simply Celebrate community who receive my emails every week. (If you aren’t on that list, please join me! Click to the main page/home of this website for the signup.) I want to invite my blog readers to also participate!

If you are one of the first five people to contact me right now, I will let you know and we’ll make sure your friend or loved one receives some love in the mail. If not, I will apologize + invite you to respond next time I ask for help. (This will ensure my letters are timely.)

Make sense?

I want to tell you that what I love MOST about this project is that there is a circular motion of love in action.

You contacting me about someone who needs a boost is an act of love on your part. When I receive these requests, I get filled with a sense of loving YOU for being the kind of person who cares so deeply. Then, when I write and send the letters, I get to be filled up again with so much love for the person I am writing to. Finally, if the letter is sent on your behalf, you will likely receive a rush of love from the person who got the letter. (If the letter is sent anonymously, we can all imagine how uplifting it will be for that person to receive unexpected kindness in their mailbox.)

The love just keeps going round and round.

What I also love most, is that when I am in the midst of this project, I am reminded every single day that we can always expand the container of love.

We can expand how we love, who we love, and the ways we love.


I used to feel lonely a lot.

Then, over the years, I started to understand that anytime I was feeling lonely all I had to do was offer love to someone in my life, and voila (!) my heart would be full and I would be connected.

Doing this Kindness Project has taken that concept to a whole new level. It has taught me that there is always someone I can offer love to — and I don’t even have to know them. That means there is an endless of supply of love at the ready. I just need to start the ball rolling by offering some.

I have this profound understanding now that I can choose to feel connected any time I am willing to reach out. 

Do you know what I mean?

Have you ever felt this?

I hope you might give it a whirl yourself today.

Reach out to someone and offer a kind word or a gesture of love. Then watch how you feel!

Thank you for being a part of my world. Our connection means so much to me. YOU mean so much to me.

We’re all in this together.

Seek celebration — even in the dark corners,
xo Sherry

P.S. A reminder that when I asked, “Do you know anyone who needs a boost of love,” that person could be YOU. Never leave yourself out of the equation of love. Reach out if you need a boost, okay?

C’mon over + bring the tissues!

What the heck am I so excited about?!

That pic up above is part of a video from the Secret Agent Challenge: Operation Love, which launched this past Sunday, Random Acts of Kindness Day.

I had no idea how extraordinarily uplifting and connecting this project would be.

I know I wrote to you about it last week, but because it has moved me so much, I want to encourage those of you who haven’t participated to come and join in, even though we’re midway through.

It is simple to join the Facebook Group and you can start wherever we are. Each day secret agents receive a poem and a prompt based on that poem. Today is day four of seven. Every prompt is a stand-alone, so there’s no sense of missing anything or being “behind.”

(Ha ha … what a great concept, “I’m so behind on my kindness. I’ve really got to catch up with my joy this week.” Or, “Sorry, I can’t go to the movie, I’m busy catching up on happy acts that make me feel giddy and alive.”)

What I most want for you is even if you join the group and don’t participate in any of the missions, even if you never say a peep, I want you to read the dozens and dozens of “kindness missions” people have been enacting. I promise you, just reading the comments under each day’s prompt will bring you so much energy. It will make your heart feel squishy and good. 

Trust me.

This is the stuff life is made of.

Here are just two examples of secret agents responses to different prompts. There are dozens of stories like this being posted each day!

C’mon over! Let yourself be immersed in the beauty of human nature! It is so much better than network news!

Seek celebration — even in the dark corners,

xo Sherry








What Alison Had to Say …

My friend, Alison Luterman, is an amazing poet and human being. She is authentic, warm, kind, and caring. She is devoted to her writing and performance as a career, which means that she spends a lot of time working in solitude.

A couple weeks ago, Alison wrote a newsletter article about the importance of connection. I was honored to be featured in that piece. But more importantly, I was so touched by Alison’s insights into how crucial it is that people reach out to one another.

Here’s just a small excerpt from her article, but I hope you’ll read the whole thing:

What meant the most to me about her kind gesture was the reminder of being connected even though our lives are busy and we don’t see each other in person very much … Left to my own devices I can create all kinds of imaginary borders and walls between my self and others. I can worry at small differences like a dog with a bone until the hole overwhelms the whole. Lucky that life comes hammering on my door anyway, or arrives magically through the mail slot.

We never know what someone else might be going through — what sense of disconnection, disappointment, loss, or separation. Reaching out to send a note of love and support is an easy way, as Alison says, to remind someone that we are connected.

We need that.

We all need to feel like we’re held in a wide net of love. It’s part of the joy of being human.

Can you take a moment to read Alison’s short essay and then consider who might need to feel connected to YOU? Will you write them a line or two and put it in the mail? It might be exactly what they need! (And, secret sauce: offering the gesture of love could be exactly what YOU need!)

xo Sherry

P.S. If you click to Alison’s newsletter, you will also have the beautiful treat of one of her poems, $18.88, which is sure to make you smile.

P.P.S. Here’s another way to bring joy in an easy way! Wanna be a Secret Agent of Change and complete missions of kindness every day for seven days? Join our 7-Day Challenge! Operation Love begins on February 17th!





Bubble Flash Mob, Anyone?

I made a gift for you: it is a four-minute video filled with bubble joy!

Treat yourself to these few minutes of pure happiness. (Be sure and watch full screen to get all the oomph!)

I had a blast creating it — and I think you’ll smile big when you watch it.

Bubble Flash mobs (bubbles + two or more people + a starting time) are simple, inexpensive gifts we can give to a whole group of people at one time.

They are magical.

You can create this magic.

Would you consider doing this for your next family gathering or company picnic? Can you imagine going to the park, a children’s playground, or a concert and handing out bubbles to strangers?

Could you keep a dozen containers of bubble solution in your garage and be at the ready with a surprise when you see a group of neighborhood children playing?

Watch my short video and then take the idea and make it a gift with your own twist.

Let me know what you think!

Feeling giddy,



Photo gratitude: Black and white photo of my beau, Ian copyright John Nieto Photography.  Color photo of Ian and me copyright Andrea Scher Photography

Kindness Project 51-51-51

roses-dailykindnessI turn 51 this week. And, as I’ve done for the three years, I want to celebrate by sending notes of kindness to strangers.

I love the feeling of connection + community this practice brings me. It has taught me that I don’t ever have to feel alone. I can always connect to someone by sending love to them. Rather than getting all weird about my birthday —which I have been known to do — I can simply jump into a swimming hole of love! Splash!

For my Kindness Project: 51-51-51 I will send 51 notes to 51 strangers in 51 days.

But I need your help.

Do you know someone who is lonely, grieving, disappointed, or blue? Someone who needs a boost? If so, please email me and tell me a tiny bit about their story, why you love this person, and their snail mail address. Also, let me know if you want their letter to be anonymous from the universe or from me on your behalf.

Thank you for being one of the many reasons I have to celebrate. I love sharing this journey with you!