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LoveGram: Celebration and Sadness

 

Hello beautiful friend. 

Welcome to your Sunday audio LoveGram. 

Today I send you sixteen sunflowers, standing tall. 

I send you the woman crying, who says, “it’s okay I cry; talk to me anyway.”

I send you a scrub jay, a lemon, a fresh bar of soap, a single cypress tree.  

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In today’s LoveGram, we are talking about how sadness and celebration are two sides of the same coin. 

We’re human beings. We get lost and we lose things. We are beauty and we see beautiful things. 

And everything in between. 

(To listen to the audio, just click over to this page, scroll down, and hit “play” on the audio player.)

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If we want to have deep, meaningful, and connected relationships in our lives, we have to learn how to be together in the hardest of times. And also the happy times, too. 

We have to be willing to accept that it is all a part of being human. 

But most of us weren’t taught how to do this! 

Today, I talk about the practice of allowing ourselves to feel the whole range of human emotions and not to judge ourselves for any of them. 

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I think we do ourselves a huge disservice in our lives when we think that life needs to be black and white, or when we think that our emotions need to be this or that. We’re so complex. 

What if we stopped fighting it?

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Thank you for being here and showing up for all of it — for the ups and downs and everything in between. 

When we are open to celebrating ALL of life, it allows us the spaciousness to find connection and meaning in the hardest of times and also in the happy times. 

Flip! Two sides. Same coin. 

Listen to your audio LoveGram now. 

Thank you for your beautiful heart. 

Thank you for wanting to love and be loved as best you can. 

I’m grateful to be on this journey with you. 

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. I love this new podcast on grief by Anderson Cooper. It is tender and filled with love for humankind. 

P.P.S. Just a reminder that any loss in your life can be filled with grief — death, illness, divorce, miscarriage, empty nest, job loss, alienation from a friend, etc. If you feel something as sadness or grief, I hope you honor it, seek support, and let it move through you. 

LoveGram: This is not an easy topic.

Hello beautiful friend. 

Welcome to your Sunday audio LoveGram

Today’s LoveGram comes to you from Oakland, California where I’m in the midst of a three-day slumber party with a couple of girlfriends, Alison Luterman and Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer. 

Both of them are writers and extraordinarily intentional about their lives and their relationships. I knew I wanted to have them as special guests on my LoveGram — but didn’t know exactly what the topic would be. 

However, as it turns out, when we first got together, our conversation turned to grief. This seemed like a good conversation to share with you. 

I realize this is not a light nor breezy topic. But I feel it is an important and necessary one. 

Thus, in today’s LoveGram, we are talking about this challenging, yet powerful, topic: how to be with one another in times of loss and grief. 

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If we want to have deep, meaningful, and connected relationships in our lives, we have to learn how to be together in the hardest of times. 

We have to learn how to ask for support, allow support, and give support. 

But most of us weren’t taught how to do this! 

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I’ve been hosting weekly groups called Grief + Growth, in which we talk about aspects of grief. In the most recent one, last Thursday afternoon, one of the participants asked if anyone else had close friends and family who had abandoned them in times of grief. 

Almost everyone in the group raised their hand in an acknowledgement.

I’ve been thinking about this a lot. How can we open ourselves up to learning about ways to show up for each other even when it is hard and we may feel inadequate? 

  (To listen to the audio, just click over to this page, scroll down, and hit “play” on the audio player.)

 

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Here are some of the topics we cover in today’s audio LoveGram: 

* Some of the reasons why we may not show up for people we love when they are grieving — or why they aren’t there for us. 

* What to say or do. And, how to be with someone grieving or challenged by loss. 

* What to do or how to get support for ourselves when we need it. 

Grief is a part of life. We are all going to experience it. Talking about it together can help us learn how to ask for the support we need and to give support to people we love. 

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Thank you for being here and showing up for all of it — for the ups and downs and everything in between. 

When we are open to celebrating ALL of life, it allows us the spaciousness to find connection and meaning even in the hardest of times. 

Listen to your audio LoveGram now

Thank you for your beautiful heart. 

Thank you for wanting to love and be loved as best you can. 

I’m grateful to be on this journey with you. 

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. Ali and Rosemerry are both phenomenal women and beautiful creatives. You can learn more about Alison’s work here. And Rosemerry’s work here

P.P.S. Just a reminder that any loss in your life can be filled with grief — death, illness, divorce, miscarriage, empty nest, alienation from a friend, etc. If you feel something as grief, I hope you honor it and seek support. 

P.P.P.S. See our sweaters in the photo up above? Did you notice that they all have the words “faerie lights” embroidered on them? Rosemerry did that! These sweaters were an oh-so-special surprise gift with beautiful, personal meaning to us! The last time we three were together, we made up a “band name” for ourselves, The Faerie Lights. Rosemerry took that fun detail/memory and made a “Say it Now” kinda gift. Note: That thoughtful gift inspired us to make up silly songs all weekend long, pretending they were for our first album. It’s been so much fun! Think about how you can do something like this as a creative gift for someone in your life!

LoveGram: About Birthdays!

Welcome to your Sunday audio LoveGram.

Today I send you a pink flamingo.

I send you a sunflower, suddenly blossomed, in your front yard.

I send you a song, sung just for you, with just the right words to make you feel loved and understood.

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Hey! Today is my birthday! (That’s little me, up above in the photo. I guess I loved hats even 50+ years ago!)

So, in celebration, today’s audio LoveGram is focused on ways to celebrate someone without that cookie-cutter imperative, “Happy Birthday.”

AND, we also touch on how to make YOUR birthday fit where you are in the moment. (It’s your birthday, you can cry if you want to!)

In other words, balloons and confetti are great when they suit the mood and feel real. But let’s pause at birthday time (yours or someone else’s!) and think about what’s right for this moment.

Don’t just rush at ’em with that overdone birthday song, put yourself in their shoes and imagine what kind of love they really need.

(To listen to the audio, just click over to this page, scroll down, and hit “play” on the audio player.)

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Special thanks to Becky DeRoches, whose personalized birthday song to me kicked off our audio today! You can listen to the whole song on the audio LoveGram page for this week.

Becky sent me this song for my 50th birthday, eight years ago. I listen to it every single year on my birthday. It is a shining, beautiful example of “Say it Now” in action.

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[Spoiler alert]

I know that some of you prefer to read rather than listen. So, I’m gonna give you the nuts and bolts right here. However, I encourage you to listen because there is so much subtlety to this topic.

(And, you will get to hear Becky’s song!)

Ready?

Here are two things I want you to think about when it comes to birthdays:

When it is your birthday, give yourself permission to ask for what you want or need.

Your celebration could be a dinner party or dancing. It could be tea with a friend or reading a book under a tree. Follow YOUR energy and heart. And reach out to ask for people to show up in a way that will most support you.

When it is your birthday or someone else’s birthday, there is no requirement to have a “Happy Birthday.”

Please try to pause before you sing the birthday song to someone or text a dancing “Happy Birthday” gif to them. Consider whether they are grieving, lost, or lonely. If they are having a challenging time, send them love and appreciation. Be real. And thoughtful. Don’t simply resort to a sing-songy message that may leave them feeling worse.

If you want to hear a more in-depth explanation of why these are so important and necessary, listen to your audio LoveGram now!

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Thank you, as always, for being here. I love sharing life with you. 

I know you. I see your generous heart. 

I know you want to bring more life into your life. 

I applaud you for being someone on a path of awareness and who practices joy. 

Be intentional. 

Be courageous. 

Be willing to celebrate yourself and others in ways that are authentic and perfect for the moment. 

Sending you love.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S.  I launched my Birthday Kindness Project earlier this week and opened up slots for letters to people who needs boosts of love. Thank you to everyone who responded! I love you and will get back to each of you within a few days! 

P.P.S Want to help me celebrate my birthday in the best way possible? I would be so grateful if you would purchase my book, “Say it Now.” The message of expressing our love and appreciation is so important to me. Your support means TONS! If you’ve already bought a copy, would you consider clicking that same link and leaving a review or purchasing a copy for a friend or your local library? THANK YOU! 

Birthday Kindness Project 58-58-58

 

Hello friend.

My 58-58-58 Birthday Kindness Project is launching today! It is my decade anniversary of doing this project. (Holy smokes! The years fly by!)

Every year for the past ten years, I have been sending letters of love and kindness to strangers as a way of celebrating my birthday.

The first year I did this, I wrote as many letters as the age I was becoming —  in that number of hours. {Yikes!} 48 letters to 48 strangers in 48 hours.

I don’t think I got any sleep those two days, trying to finish so many letters. It was exhilarating. But also, exhausting.

Starting the next year, I got a little smarter and changed it to “writing as many letters as the age I am becoming in that many days.”

Ahhhh. More sane.

I quickly noticed that the sense of connection and quiet joy extended for a much longer period. I like that I’m immersed in this expansion of love for nearly a couple of months.

I turn 58 on October 2 and I am requesting your help with my project.

Do you know someone who is lonely, lost, disappointed, grieving, or blue? Someone who is going through a difficult time right now and could use a boost of love?

For the past two years, the world has been unsettled and uncertain in so many ways. There has been a lot of grief, illness, and loneliness.

There are a lot of people who need extra TLC.

Think about your circle and community; who is grieving the loss of someone they love — a death or divorce? Who is afraid? Who is disappointed or feeling let down by life? Who is in physical pain? Who is caregiving for someone they love?

Let’s reach out to them with love.

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Here’s how the Birthday Kindness Project works:

I open up spaces for letters a dozen at a time. I’m reaching out to you, my beloved community, FIRST!

Right now, I am opening up 12 slots for letters.

By limiting the numbers at each request, I know that all these letters will be sent within the next two weeks. That’s important because a lot of the times there is an urgency to the situation.

Then, at some point I will put out a call for more letters. In between I also take requests that come from my blog, social media, and other places.

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How to request a letter:

It’s simple.

* You email me your person’s name and POSTAL mail address.

* You share just a few highlight sentences about what they are going through and also what you love best about this person. (These are really important because they help me craft a meaningful letter.)

* You let me know if you want the love letter sent anonymously from the Universe, or on your behalf. Note: Only you know whether it will have a greater impact for the letter to come from the Universe or from you. Some people love the magic of an anonymous letter. For others, it might creep them out!

If you are one of the first twelve people to contact me right now, I will let you know and we’ll make sure your friend or loved one receives some love in the mail. If not, I will apologize + invite you to respond next time I ask for help.

Make sense?

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I want to tell you that what I love MOST about this project is that there is a circular motion of love in action.

You contacting me about someone who needs a boost is an act of love on your part. Pay attention to that. Feel it.

When I receive these requests, I get filled with a sense of loving YOU for being the kind of person who cares so deeply. Then, when I write and send the letters, I get to be filled up again with so much love for the person I am writing to.

Finally, if the letter is sent on your behalf, you will likely receive a rush of love from the person who got the letter. (If the letter is sent anonymously, we can all imagine how uplifting it will be for that person to receive unexpected kindness in their mailbox.)

The love just keeps going ‘round and ‘round.

What I also love most, is that when I am in the midst of this project, I am reminded every single day that we can always expand the container of love.

We can expand how we love, who we love, and the ways we love.

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I used to feel lonely a lot.

Then, over the years, I started to understand that anytime I was feeling lonely all I had to do was offer love to someone in my life, and voila (!) my heart would be full and I would be connected.

Doing this Kindness Project has taken that concept to a whole new level. It has taught me that there is always someone I can offer love to — and I don’t even have to know them. That means there is an endless of supply of love at the ready. I just need to start the ball rolling by offering some.

I have this profound understanding now that I can choose to feel connected any time I am willing to reach out.

Do you know what I mean?

Have you ever felt this?

I hope you might give it a whirl yourself today.

Reach out to someone and offer a kind word or a gesture of love. Then watch how you feel!

Thank you for being a part of my world. Our connection means so much to me.

YOU mean so much to me.

We’re all in this together.

Seek celebration — even in the dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. A reminder that when I asked, “Do you know anyone who needs a boost of love,” that person could be YOU. Never leave yourself out of the equation of love. Reach out if you need a boost, okay?

P.P.S Sometimes requests pour in right away. I never know how many when I first request ’em. I may not be able to respond to you right away if you email me. Rest assured, I will respond as soon as I can. I promise.

 

 

LoveGram: Advance love for your future self.

 

Hello Friend!

Today I send you a love letter you mail to yourself.

I send you clean sheets that smell like lilac, which you luxuriate in when you crawl into bed, exhausted.

I send you a song on the radio, one that you love from long ago, which you hear unexpectedly, and it brings a smile to your face.

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Welcome to your weekly audio LoveGram.

In today’s LoveGram, we talk about some ways to think about how we can support our future self, especially if there might be bumpy roads ahead.

How can we prepare in advance to offer unbounded support and extra special attention to the self who may need it?

(To listen to the audio, just click over to this page, scroll down, and hit “play” on the audio player.)

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You can be on the offensive by declaring this a new chapter. Name it for yourself. Plan it.

Or, if it isn’t yet time for the new chapter, let this be an official period of transition/grief.

Don’t push yourself to go too quickly through your experience. It is so essential that we feel our feelings and process whatever loss or hardship is alive in us right now. There’s no rush. Be human!

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You’ll hear in today’s LoveGram that I’m kinda doing both at once! I’m letting myself feel everything that wants to run through me, whenever it arises. I’m reaching out to friends and leaning in on their love.

AND, I’m setting up an autumn “Advance Love” program for myself.

I’ve created a list of books I want to read that I know will support the ways I want to grieve and grow. I’ve listed a few projects that I will complete. I’ve also made a list of some new skills I want to learn. And finally, I’ve brainstormed some ways I can be out in the real world, meeting people live again and volunteering.

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Here are some ways you can plan to love yourself — now, next week, or next month— whenever it is time for the next stage of your healing:

  • Buy a beautiful journal for yourself that you will fill with love.
  • Make some audio recordings that let that future you know you care and understand.
  • Make a playlist of comforting or uplifting music.
  • Research meet-up groups where you might get to know new friends.
  • Create a list of books to read that you know will support you.
  • Enlist a friend for exercise accountability.
  • Reach out for places to volunteer.
  • Think about a musical instrument you would like to learn.
  • Make a list of projects that would feel great to complete.
  • List places you’d like to clear free of clutter.

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My dear friend, I know that the past two years have been filled with grief, loss, loneliness, fear, and disappointment.

I understand.

I also know that this is exactly why we all must fortify ourselves.

This is why we must offer ourselves unlimited kindness now — and why we must plan advance love, too!

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

Celebration Moment: Grief Belongs, Too.

How are you, my friend?

I’m sending this beautiful poem along to anyone who may need it — for yourself or for someone you love.

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Are you surprised that I called this a “Celebration Moment” and included a poem about grief?

I hope not.

I hope you’ve been walking by my side for long enough that you know how I feel about celebrating all aspects of who we are and all the feelings of being human — even the hard and messy and keening and weepy ones.

I want us all to take a moment and re-define for ourselves what the word “celebration” can mean.

It can be a way that put hand to heart and honor all of who we are. It can be the way we whisper, “I’m here with you” to ourselves when we are sad. 

Celebration can mean that we are planted firmly in the here and now and allowing ourselves to feel all the human feelings. 

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My teacher, Cheri Huber, always says, “It is hard to be human. Please be kind to yourself and everyone you meet.”

This poem — posted up above— by my dear friend, Rosemerry, reminds us that we can all get the weighed down feeling of grief, as if we cannot move. And that is exactly the moment to treat ourselves with extra tenderness.

Also, if we can be vulnerable and open up to others when we are in that space, we never know when we will help someone else open up to their own vulnerability and grief.

I always say, if you are having a hard time, reach out for help. 

If you are energized and feeling good, reach out to someone who needs help! 

We’re all in this together.

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There’s nothing to be afraid of.

You are safe. You are loved. You are not alone.  

What are we celebrating in this moment?

That we are here, together, supporting one another on this journey. We can show up smiling, weeping, laughing, angry, worried, uncertain.

It is okay.

Everything is human.

I love you and am cheering you on, always.

Be gentle.

Celebrate everything you are and feel.

Thanks for who you are.

Seek celebration — even in the dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

 

When we need help.

 

Hello my beautiful friend.

Here’s your link to today’s LoveGram.

My conversation with you today is about asking for help when we are unsteady on our feet.

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On Friday I sent you an email confessing how hard it is for me to reach out to people when I am in a hard place. (“Meet Cardboard Sherry!”)

In that email, I included a poem and some beautiful wisdom by my friend, Maya. If you missed it, you can read that here. 

(Her poem is wonderful for when we feel shaky!)

A lot of you wrote to say that just like me, when you are having a hard time, it can be hard to reach out.

You shared with me your own struggles with feeling like a burden or letting down your guard. You shared with me how hard it is to be vulnerable and how it can feel as if once we start crying, we may never stop.

I’m so grateful to each of you. To those who wrote. And to those who didn’t, but who held the space with all of us by silently nodding your heads.

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I’m grateful to each of you who is feeling strong and who is holding the ground for someone in your life who isn’t.

I’m grateful to each of you who, like me, is practicing every day how to be real with the people we love.

I started these Sunday LoveGrams back in March, 2020 when the pandemic first took us all by surprise. I had no idea how much loss and change and uncertainty was ahead of all of us.

These have been truly challenging times.

And yet, if you are reading this, HERE YOU ARE.

HERE WE ARE.

Together.

Sharing all of our joys and grief. Sharing ideas on how we can love people in our life and let them know how much they mean to us. Sharing ways to celebrate life — even when we are lost in the darkness.

Celebration and sadness are two sides of the same coin. When we are going through hard things and we allow ourselves to connect with people in a vulnerable way, we flip the coin.

The sadness may still be there, but there is a quiet, love-filled celebration that comes from sharing real life with another human being.

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So, on the audio today I explore more why this is so important to do, even when everything in us wants to hide.

Click here to listen.

Thanks for being by my side. I’m here for you, too.

We are holding ground for one another through all of the everything of life.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

LoveGram: Feel all the feelings

 

Hey there, beautiful friend!

I am thinking of you and sending love.

Today I send you permission to lie down and rest.

I send you permission to sit in a soothing hot bath and cry until your insides feel a little less weighted.

I send you permission to reach out to someone no matter how much everything in you tells you to hide.

I send you a friend on the other end of the phone line who is able to hold anything with you — your joy, your grief, your anger, your confusion, your lethargy, your angst, your fear, your laughter, your mess.

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I also send you one of my favorite quotes from my spiritual teacher, Cheri Huber. She often says, “It is hard to be human. Be kind to yourself.”

And it’s so true, no matter who we are, no matter what our current circumstances, we all go through hard times. We lose people. Life changes. We grieve. We worry about people we love. We get angry or disappointed.

It’s all part of the human experience.

And so, it is essential to hold all of that with deep compassion for ourselves.

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Welcome to your Sunday audio LoveGram.

(To listen to the audio, just click over to this page, scroll down, and hit “play” on the audio player.)

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I am here with you.

I am holding it all with you.

I am feeling all the feelings with you.

Thank you for being here with me.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

LoveGram: Will You Do This?

 

Hello wonderful friend.

Thank you for being with me on this human journey.

Thank you for being by my side as we’ve been navigating this pandemic together. I started making these Sunday LoveGrams in March of 2020. And here we are, still walking each other home. (Thank you for that quote, Ram Dass!)

Thank you for being someone who shows up for yourself and for everything life offers.

I appreciate you. I believe in you.

I trust your ability to find the goodness, even when things are hard.

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Today, I send you the feel of your grandfather’s hand on your shoulder.

I send you the memory of someone you really love who passed away, but whose laughter still echoes in your mind and makes you smile.

I send you the scent of perfume, just the same one your sweet auntie used to wear, and how it makes you remember her warm home and crocheted doilies.

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Today’s LoveGram is in honor of World Kindness Day, which was yesterday.

It is also in celebration of the Secret Agents of Change, a group of wonderful folks who spread surreptitious kindness.

(To listen to the audio, just scroll down on this page and click play on the audio player below!)

 

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Two weeks ago, when you received my LoveGram, I was flying to Colorado to visit my dear friend, Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer.

While I was there, we got to host a special Day of the Dead mission for our Secret Agents of Change. (Rosemerry and I started this group together a few years ago.)

I want to share some ideas that came out of that mission. I think they will touch your heart.

More importantly, I’m hoping you will be inspired to share an act of kindness in honor of someone you love. (If you’ve already participated in this kindness mission, I challenge you to think of someone else to honor and try it again!)

Ready to do this? (I hope so!)

Scroll down below my signature and you can read the poem that our mission was based on.

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Here is your prompt:

Your mission, should you choose to accept it: Create an act of kindness in someone’s name who has passed away. What did that person value? What brought them joy? What is something that would make them really happy if they knew you were doing this in their name? What would feel like an honoring of that person?

Double Secret Agent Mission: Create an audio note for them or write them a letter to tell them about your kindness. You can also write them a poem, or stand and whisper it. Or use a “phone of the wind.” (Google that phrase.)Watch to see how connecting this feels.

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Here are a few kindness acts, some of our Secret Agents carried out earlier this month:

  • Her dad loved two things: playing cards around a table with family and eating ice-cream. She honored him by donating a bunch of decks of cards to the local Ronald McDonald House and also buying ice-cream gift certificates that the shop clerk could surprise people with throughout the day.
  • His childhood friend who passed away at a very young age, dreamed of a simple life driving trucks for a living. So, our Secret Agent honored his friend by leaving some gift cards in envelopes on top of the trash cans on pick-up day so that the drivers of the collection trucks would find these kind surprises.
  • Her brother, who took his life several years ago, loved rhubarb pie. He once made a special one for her to celebrate her. In his honor, she chose to serve rhubarb pie and share loving memories of him.
  • My mom participated in this mission! Her own mother was diligent in caring for the graves of people she loved, especially her mom and husband — my mother’s grandmother and father. So, for this kindness mission, my mom took some plants to the cemetery and left them on graves that seemed as if they were uncared for and didn’t have loving visitors.
  • I’m honoring my father, who passed away earlier this year, by sending anonymous money to someone I know who is saving up for a trip to her family’s birthplace. My dad was not much of a family man at all — he didn’t seem to want to be tied down — so, this is a way to pay tribute to him even though we were never close.

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Happy day-after World Kindness Day. I hope you choose to offer kindness in the name of someone you love who has passed away.

And, if YOU are are need of kindness today, please accept this long-distance hug from me. Please be extra kind to yourself and perhaps surprise yourself somehow with truckloads of compassion and understanding. (If that is hard to do, pretend it is coming me from me!)

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. Google the phrase, “phone of the wind.” Here’s one story. 

P.P.S. Join the Secret Agents of Change by signing up for our mailing list. Or joining the Facebook group.

P.P.P.S. Here’s Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer’s poem. (Copyright)

 

LoveGram: Keep Breathing

 

Good morning my beautiful friend.

Thank you for being with me on this human journey.

Thank you for being someone who cares about loving and growing and allowing.

Thank you for being someone who shows up for yourself and for everything Life offers — all the grief and all the celebration and everything in between.

Today, I send you the tall, bold red hibiscus bloom that opened up unexpectedly — almost before my very eyes.

Today, I send you the words, “keep breathing,” from a song that showed up for me this morning. I send you the understanding that sometimes, sometimes, sometimes, that is all we can do. Sometimes, we can only keep breathing … and trust that we will get righted again from whatever has knocked us over.

Today I send you the taste of a chocolate truffle, this one spiced pumpkin. The next one, hazelnut.

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This week’s LoveGram emerged — once again as they often do!— from a song that Life gifted me with unexpectedly this morning.

The song is called, “Keep Breathing,” and it is from an album named, “Be Okay.”

Gotta love that, right? {insert smile here!}

To hear the audio LoveGram, click on the link, then scroll down on the page it sends you to, you’ll see the audio player.

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Last week, when you received my LoveGram, I was flying to Colorado to visit my dear friend, Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer. I shared with you a poem. I want you to hear it again.

I want you to pay attention to what happens for us when we repeat poems, prayers, or wisdoms.

What do we hear anew?

What layers get revealed that we missed?

In the case of today’s LoveGram, I invite us all to explore even more deeply what it means to live in a human body, experiencing grief and celebration.

And everything in between.

Can we allow ourselves the whole range of feelings and experiences?

Here’s the poem for you again:

Strange Bedmates

By Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer

grief and celebration

share the same bed—

one keeps stealing the blanket

the other

keeps knitting a beautiful new one

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There you have it. Grief and celebration. Two sides of the same human coin.

To me, being present in all of the feelings of being human, to allow ourselves the whole range of human experience is authentic celebration.

We must let ourselves feel the 10,000 joys and the 10,000 sorrows. We can help each other through the heavy, hard ones and we can celebrate together in the light ones.

I encourage you to allow it all. Accept it all.

Keep breathing through it all.

Keep breathing, even in the darkest moments.

Keep breathing in the sunlight.

You are okay. Be okay.

Thank you for being by my side for this journey.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry