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LoveGram: Tap into This!

 

Hello beautiful friend!

Today I send you the mini-carnations I  bought on a whim at the grocery store. According to my paint chip color wheel, their color is “pink ladies.”

I send you something that catches your eye — and that you say “yes” to as a way to celebrate your beautiful self.

I send you the waltz from “Amelie,” which you can listen to for free online because of this magical world we live in.

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My audio LoveGram for today is more conversation about how we learn to love better.

Today, we continue our conversation from last week about how we can choose to intentionally prioritize the people in our life and how we practice this day by day.

(To listen to the audio, just click over to this page, scroll down, and hit “play” on the audio player.)

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I’m going to keep the written part of today’s LoveGram short because I want you to listen to the recording. (Sometimes I give it all away in writing, don’t I?!)

I think there’s some good stuff to think about. And I would love to hear YOUR thoughts after you listen.

Some questions we are exploring today:

* Can we learn from method actors how we can self-identify as people who are great at loving others?

* What keeps us from celebrating ourselves and all the good things we do and are?

* Do we celebrate others when good things happen for them?

(Oh, and if you missed last week’s LoveGram, you can find it here.)

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Hey, I know that the past two years have been filled with grief, loss, loneliness, and disappointment.

I understand.

I also know that this is exactly why the people in our lives really need us to tap into the part of us that is willing to see them, uplift them, and celebrate them.

It’s all too easy to connect by complaining or commiserating about the hard stuff. 

We can find a different way to connect. 

We can connect through meaningful conversation, through appreciation, and through intentional celebration of what is good. 

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Thank you for sharing my values of appreciation, love, and celebration.

Thank you for being someone who cares about creating more color and celebration for yourself and for others.

Part of today’s LoveGram was sparked by someone in our community reaching out with her thoughts. If you think there are other aspects to loving better that we could explore, email me!

I’m grateful to you for being by my side. As Ram Dass says so perfectly, “We are all just walking each other home” — through this pandemic and beyond!

I’m here for you.

I see your beautiful heart.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. Here’s that waltz from the movie, Amelie. It is called Comptine d`un autre ete – l`apres-midi. So beautiful!

 

{Celebration Superstar} Meet Christina!

 

I hope you are having a good week, my friend. I hope you are feeling loved and that every day you’ve been noticing something beautiful in the world, maybe a tiny bird or someone’s smile.

If this hasn’t been such a good week, I hope that there’s someone in your life who gives great hugs. And I hope you’ve been extra kind and gentle to yourself. I hope you make some tea with honey. I hope you go look at the stars and wear your favorite knitted scarf. 

No matter how you are feeling when you read this email, I hope it makes you smile and remember that, no matter what, we can create a tiny bit of celebration. (Even when things feel dark and hard. Especially then!)

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Do you remember last week when I wrote to you about the joy of creating a Super Supper?

(No problem if you don’t remember. Click here to read!)

A few days after I sent it, I received a note from Christina Shook, a friend whom I’ve known for more than 20 years.

Christina wrote to tell me about a “Fakesgiving Celebration” she hosted! (Don’t you just love that name?!)

Christina told me that she’d seen some turkeys on sale at the market and so she bought one. She said, “Then we invited some new friends over for dinner. We did the whole (but simplified) Thanksgiving dinner thing — stuffing, green beans, cranberry sauce. We set the table fancy, too, of course. It was a hoot!”

You can imagine how delighted I was to hear Christina’s story.

I immediately emailed her back and asked, “What do you think it was that enabled you to go from ‘Let’s have turkey’ to ‘Let’s have Fakesgiving?’ How did you make that delightful leap?”  

Christina responded, “The leap from turkey to Thanksgiving seemed like a clear path. What are you going to do with 20 pounds of turkey?! You kinda have to share it. Turkey is a naturally celebratory dish that must be shared!”

She said, “One thing leads to another, just like how you described your Super Supper. It’s like that book, If you Give a Mouse a Cookie…”

(Ha ha. In that book, a boy gives a cookie to a mouse and it leads to a glass of milk and a straw and more … and more!)

Christina gave some details: “First the turkey. Then the guests. Then the big tablecloth. Then the candles. Pretty soon you’ve got a Fakesgiving happening!”

She said, “Our friends enjoyed it entirely and they brought the pies. And, of course, we all expressed gratitude and made toasts— which you kinda have to do, with the whole table set with bounty and friends.”

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Bravo, Christina! What a Celebration Superstar, right? She took an ordinary turkey and turned it into an extraordinary Fakesgiving dinner filled with special touches, joy, gratitude, toasts, and bounty! 

Here are some elements of this story that delight me:

  • Christina followed each of the little ideas that dropped in. She didn’t say, “Nah, that’s too much trouble to get out the good tablecloth or to dig out the candles.”
  • Christina named the event. Sometimes, simply putting a name to something cements it in our minds as unique and special. We see it differently.
  • Christina invited others into the joy.
  • Christina made sure to pause during that dinner — offering toasts! — to acknowledge the moment and to intentionally celebrate her friends and the bounty.
  • Christina knew that her story would make me happy, so she took the time to write and tell me, thus spreading even more joy!

[Here’s a message just for her: Christina, I am celebrating YOU today! I love this story. I love that you followed the bread crumb trail of creating joy! Woot woot!]

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  • I also want to celebrate a couple other things that I know about Christina. For one, that she is a talented photographer who intentionally brings beauty, love, and compassion to her work.
  • I am also celebrating that she is a caring and loving mother and wife. Through the years, she’s always kept family at the center of her world and have made people a priority in her life.
  • Christina has also been a living example of “Say it Now,” by reaching out to me often to thank me for my work or to request a letter for someone during my Birthday Kindness Project.

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Please join me today in celebrating Christina.

I hope her story might inspire YOU in some brand new way this week. Will you allow a Give a Mouse a Cookie experience to come to life in some unexpected way?  

Listen, this pandemic has weighed us all down with so much grief, illness, and discouragement.

YOU can be the one to lift others up. YOU can be the one to bring tiny moments of you. They don’t have to look like a big ole turkey and a table full of friends. Those moments can be 100% unique to YOU. 

I started this letter to you with the word, “notice.” I want to end it with that same really important word.

Please notice what wants to come through you. Notice the little nudges you get. Follow them. Trust them.

Look for the sparkles and tiny pinpricks of light. They will lead you to that experience of turning ordinary days into an extraordinary life. 

I love you and am cheering you on, always.

Thanks for who you are. YOU  MATTER!

Seek celebration — even in the dark corners,

xo Sherry

LoveGram: Not always about the confetti (take 2)

 

Hello, beautiful friend.

Here’s what I want to remind you about today: you do not have to earn celebration.

Celebration is not just for special occasions.

It is your birthright to celebrate the whole range of emotions. To celebrate being human.

Yeah, confetti is great. Balloons are fun. Champagne and bubbles of all kinds are festive. But you do not have to be or feel festive in order to celebrate.

Authentic celebration can be as simple as whispering to ourselves, “What do you need, honey?” It can be turning our face toward the sun, even when everything in us feels clouded over with sadness or fear. It can be calling a friend, like I did earlier this week, to say “I am feeling sad and crabby all at once. Can you help?” 

Celebration can be the connection we feel to someone else when we ask for help and they stand by our side and suddenly things just feel a little more okay.

So, my audio LoveGram today is about helping ourselves find tiny moments to celebrate, no matter what.

Click the word, LoveGram up above and when you land on my web page, scroll down until you see the audio player. Then, press play to listen or download to hear on the go.

Hey, this is the quote I read to you on the audio: “Be kind; for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” (This is attributed to several different people: Ian Maclaren, Plato, or Philo.)

Here’s your challenge this week: Can you experience celebration in your own life in times when you are not happy or you didn’t win or it isn’t a special occasion? 

I’m here with you in these still challenging and uncertain pandemic times. We are in this together. Sharing our experiences helps.

Thank you for being here with me.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

 

{Uplift Gifts}: You Had Me at Hello

 

I hope your week has been going well. I’m thinking of you and sending you warm greetings. Imagine that you can see me and I’ve got a big smile on my face as I wave to you. Imagine that I am squealing with happiness as I say your name.

Have you ever thought about what a gift it is to greet someone — on the phone, on a video call, or in person— with enthusiasm and joy? 

My most recent article in the wonderful website, Kind Over Matter, is all about the gift of a loving HELLO!

Click here to read this essay and find out five easy steps for a memorable you-had-me-at-hello greeting for someone. 

Listen, I know you think this sounds simple.

It IS!

But we all know that sometimes it is the smallest things in life that bring the greatest pleasure. 

Commit to giving this gift to people in your life. (Yep, it is a gift!)

Most of the best gifts in life are the energy and attention we intentionally and freely offer.

Will you give it a try?

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. For those of you who have followed along with my Sunday LoveGrams, you know that my son has moved out to attend college. I wrote this Hello article before he moved out. At the time, I certainly knew (and felt) the importance of his enthusiastic hellos, but I had no idea how much more important that memory would become for me. He’s no longer here every day to greet me in the way I talk about in the article. However, before he moved out, he made me a video of him saying “Hello Mom! Welcome to the house,” with his bright smile and laughter. The gift he gave me lives on in my heart.

{Uplift Gifts!} Amazing People Party!

 

 

 

Hello, friend.

I’m popping by to tell you about an amazing celebration idea that I learned from my friend, Lynda Allen.

It is called “An Amazing People Party!”

It is so simple, but absolutely wonderful and will bring some new friends into your life.

If you know someone who is having a birthday, you can organize the Amazing People Party in that person’s honor. They give you a small list of besties to invite. THEN, each of those wonderful beings brings someone else who is amazing for everyone to meet. 

It is that easy. But just think how unique and fun it can be.

Your birthday person gets to be celebrated by both new and old friends. Everyone gets to meet new people — and wow, don’t we all need that?

Plus, each person introduces their “amazing person” and that’s like a living Love List ®!!!! (A Love List is all the reasons you love someone!)

If you want to hear more subtleties and some great tips, listen to the conversation I had with Lynda on Facebook live! I posted it to YouTube so anyone could watch.

Watch this quickie 14-minute video here for tips and inspiration. 

We all need more joy and celebration right now. How about if you are the one to jumpstart it?

 

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. An Amazing People Party does not have to be for someone’s birthday or for an occasion. It can be just because! Just because you want to have some fun and meet new people!

 

LoveGram: Connect to someone you love!

 

I started creating these audio LoveGrams at the beginning of the pandemic. None of us imagined how long this would go on or how much loss and grief it would bring.

In addition to the gravity of death and illness, many of us are really lonely for the people we love.

Today’s LoveGram speaks to that!

You’ll hear about something my friends and I did as a gift for a mutual friend for her milestone birthday. We couldn’t be with her in person, but this was a gift that connected us all.

AND, just as importantly, it was a gift that brought some essential levity and laughter.

Here’s the link to today’s LoveGram, your 15-minutes of self-care.

And here’s the link to the one-of-a-kind gift we made.

Please, do try this at home, folks!

Hopefully it will help you connect to someone you love.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. In the Dance Video,  the first three minutes are us dancing, followed by messages to our friend. At around minute 4:15, you can see the awesome response from Laurie as she watched the video while we were all on a video call with her.  Then, as a special bonus, Andrea Scher talks with me about this gift — the behind-the-scenes and some how-to-tips. That’s at minute 9:20.

Simple “love-in-action” idea for New Year’s Day (or anytime!)

I’m packing to head to my wonderful mom’s house back East. But I wanted to connect with you briefly before I left.

First of all, I want to wish you a very happy New Year. May 2020 be filled with warm and loving connections to your favorite people in the world. 

If 2019 had some grief-filled or disappointing moments, I hope that you are not alone with those feelings and that you have a community of support.

May you find comfort in nature, in the passing of time, and in small moments of kindness or gentleness that find their way to you.

May you feel loved.

Speaking of feeling loved … I want to share with you a very simple and very beautiful idea that Elizabeth Bernstein told me about. I met Elizabeth earlier in the year when she interviewed me for a column she was writing for the Wall Street Journal about connecting with strangers.

I immediately delighted in Elizabeth’s bright, curious energy. We ended up talking about all kinds of things and she happened to mention a ritual she does at New Year’s.

I loved the idea and circled back with her last week to see if we could share it with YOU!

Here’s a link to a 13-minute audio that you will really enjoy. This is all about the New Year’s ritual Elizabeth does every year as a way of offering gratitude and love to everyone in her life.

Please listen and consider making this a tradition for yourself! It doesn’t have to be on New Year’s Eve or New Year’s Day. It can be anytime at the start of January. Or … anytime at all!

If you do this, will you let me know?!

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,
xo Sherry