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LoveGram: What calls you?

 

Hello friend,

I’m sending you the word “aponemia” from the Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows.

This word means “the peculiar quality of never having chosen to be born, which is shared by everyone else around you; the curious awareness that even though earthly life might be the most exciting party in the universe, somehow everyone in attendance had been dragged here by a friend or stumbled in by accident.”

I’m sending you my deepest gratitude that somehow you got to this party.

And that somehow, against all odds, you and I found one another here, on the dance floor.

I’m sending you a moment of thinking of everyone in your life and how miraculous it is that out of seven billion people, here you all are, together.

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In today’s LoveGram, we talk about how life drops little spiritual breadcrumbs for us to find.

We talk about how we are called to places inside ourselves or to parts of ourselves that long to be expressed on the outside.

(To listen to the audio, just scroll down on this page and click play on the audio player below!)

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On Friday, I published a blog post with some photos from the Edwardian Ball.

I shared with you about how the longing to be loved and to belong can sometimes overshadow our own sense of self.

I shared with you that feeling of coming home to myself in a way I’ve longed for — for decades.

If you missed that post, I hope you will read it now. It is directly connected to this question I ask today: What is calling to you?

Is there something calling you home to yourself in a new way?

What is it? 

Will you heed the call?

Thank you for being here.

You are not alone.

We are all just walking each other home. (Ram Dass)

Seek Celebration — even in dark corners,

Xo

S.

 

P.S. The  beautiful book I mentioned in the first line, “Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows” is by John Koenig.

P.P.S. Meet the pink-haired girl I talk about here in this video. My favorite favorite part is right at minute two!

 

LoveGram: More YOU!

 

Hey, beautiful friend.

Today, I send you the exuberance of jumping up and down, arms high above your head, and energy vibrating in your body.

I send you the sky —  how open it is, how receiving. How it promises us that so much more is possible than we know, or that we can see, in the moment.

I send you my bird friends who were crowing loudly and excitedly today as if they were sharing a message with us all—  that it’s good to be excited. It’s good to feel good. It’s good to make a joyful noise.

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Today’s audio LoveGram is a continuation of our conversation last week, which was 100 Percent YOU.

We’re continuing to look at what is it that stops us from being who we are, from having the experiences that we want, and from feeling the joy of simple things that call to us.

We’re looking at how that Squawky Polly in our head keep us from joy. Like for me, there’s a song that I want to listen to over and over again, and I get told by silly Squawky Polly that there’s something wrong with that.

But I do it anyways.

And, what harm is there, right?

In fact, it is the opposite: there is joy.

[By the way, you know where the expression, “Squawky Polly” comes from? When my son was about ten years old, I was explaining about  Monkey Mind and the voices in our head. I told him that I wished I could come up with an original phrase since Monkey Mind is used so much.

I don’t know how he did it, but Kayne came up with Squawky Polly. It is really fitting because those voices in our heads can be pretty darned repetitive and noisy, can’t they?!]

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In today’s message I also share with you a conversation I’m in the middle of with my friend Maggie about changing things up that we normally do so that we can live a life that has more connection, less stress, and less debt.

We’re talking about questioning things and looking around with new eyes to see what do I want to let go of in my life that is weighing me down?

We have so many cultural obligations and conventions and we often forget to question whether they’re really serving us or supporting us anymore

And at the same time, we can ask, what are the things that lift me up? What are the things that energize me, that bring me joy?

[Make a list! And gift yourself with them, as often as you remember!]

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I hope you’ll listen to today’s LoveGram.

And I hope that you will start 2022 off with a commitment to living YOUR life.

Remember Bronnie Ware and the Five Regrets of the Dying?  The top regret of people on their deathbeds is “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”

I don’t want that for you. (Or me!)

I want you —right now, starting now — and every day —  to feel as if you’re living the life that is YOURS to live, that is coming through YOU.

I want you to feel alive in the world in a way that is You-Unique.

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I love you and am so grateful to you.

Thank you for being by my side throughout this pandemic. Thank you for helping me walk through all of the grief, uncertainty, and disappointment with a magnifying glass that amplifies the joys that are also present. Especially the joy of being connected to kindred spirits!

Thank you for choosing to step out of the cookie cutter life and be courageous enough to live out loud who you really are.

Who you are is perfect.

You make a difference.

You MATTER!

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

LoveGram: 100% YOU!

 

 

Today, I send you pink streaks painted across the morning’s stark white sky.

I send you the sunset-colored baby roses braving the 39 degree weather as they blossom on the vine.

I send you the bottle top I found on the sidewalk — a big happy smile cheering us on.

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Today’s audio LoveGram is all about YOU!

It is about my wishes for you.

Listen by clicking to this page, then scrolling down until you see the audio player.

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Beautiful friend, it is the second day of a brand new year. Are you giving yourself permission to start over?

Are you allowing yourself to reset and refresh?

We’ve been through a couple years of big losses. There’s been lots of grief, illness, disappointment, and hardship. And yet, here we are, still standing. Here we are, holding hands as we walk each other home, over and over again. (Thank you, Ram Dass for that image!)

I recorded today’s audio LoveGram for you as I was out walking yesterday morning. I didn’t intend to do it. I wasn’t planning to talk to you right then. But I was listening to an audio book called, “Originals” by Adam Grant and all of the sudden, I found myself switching from listening to talking.

Something in me simply wanted to connect with YOU.

And without pausing, I did what was in me, wanting to be done.

THIS is what I wish for you in 2022! To listen to what moves you.

I wish for you to wade past those doubting voices in your own head.

I wish for you to set your gaze way past other people’s approval or understanding.

I wish for you to understand that there is something extraordinary that animates you and whatever that is, is guiding you to greater expression.

Please give yourself permission to fully step into your unique self.

Love the way you want to love. Say the things you want to say. Skip down the street if you feel like it. Sing in the grocery store if you want to. Send that letter. Buy those flowers. Paint the room hot pink. Return the library book unfinished. Mix plaids and paisleys.

Honey, you can live by your own rules.

Listen, I know you. I see your beautiful heart. I know that when I say “your own rules” you aren’t going to be out in the world causing harm to yourself, to others, or the planet.

No.

What I know is that you are unique in all the world. I know your heart speaks to you. I know you have recurring ideas, dreams, wishes, and wants. I know that you don’t always allow what is in you to come forward.

In 2022, I want you to follow your instincts more often and not listen to the Squawky Polly policing voice in your head, the crowds outside your door, or the clamor on social media.

I want you to BE YOU.

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In my LoveGram, I quote my mentor, Brendon Burchard, who says, “feel the day.” What is it that allows you to feel more alive? To feel more connected? To feel as if every cell in your body is dancing with life force?

That isn’t a rhetorical question. I want you to answer it. I want you to open up your journal and write a list of things that help you come to your senses. These are the things that will lead you home to yourself!

Off the top of my head right now, here are some things that make me feel alive:

  • Making an audio for you and feeling as if you are seeing the pink streaks in the sky alongside me.
  • Skipping because I feel like it.
  • Wearing my multi-colored knitted scarf with my different colored, multi-colored knitted hat and my still-different multi-colored knitted fingerless gloves and loving the symphony of mis-matched colors.
  • Holding my butterscotch tabby cat and feeling her purr. Believing that she can understand my thoughts and talking to her out loud.
  • Making odd things into ornaments for the Christmas tree — room keys from hotels, pencils + crumbled up essays from my son, birthday cake toppers, key chains.
  • Printing out LOVE LISTS with glittery “Celebrate” at the top to tape to the tiramisu boxes on New Year’s Eve.
  • Putting fresh lime in my kombucha. Spritzing some on my hand, simply because I so love the scent.
  • Strings of lights in the backyard connecting my studio to the house.
  • Splurging on art that touches my heart.
  • Reading a poem by candlelight.

 

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Now, it’s your turn. Don’t think about it; just write. There are no right answers. Just let yourself write about things that make you feel alive. Things that make you feel like YOU.

Now, enter 2022 promising yourself that you will live that list. You will add to that list. You will listen when a sweet voice deep inside you says, “Skip.” Or, it says, “Pick up that smiley face on the sidewalk.” Or, it says, “Call your sister and thank her for the moment at Christmas when you both burst out laughing until you had tears in your eyes.” Or, “Wear the fancy pink dress.”

Listen to what is inside you, begging to be let out to play.

We have the gift of this day. We don’t know if we will be here tomorrow.

Use it to be as much YOU as you can be!

Believe me, that is the best gift you can give the world.

I love you.

Thank you for being by my side.

Thank you for sharing my values of friendship, family, creativity, celebration, and joy.

Thank you for choosing to step out of the cookie cutter life and be courageous enough to live out loud who you really are.

Who you are is perfect.

You make a difference.

You matter!

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. If you want to have some fun practicing being YOU, join my free 5-day mini-course called Olly Olly Oxen Free: Permission and Belonging. Every day you receive a short video from me with an encouragement to take an action that will support you in feeling more connected and alive. Try it out and let me know what you think! I’m here, cheering you on!

 

LoveGram: What Moves You?

 

Hello wonderful friend.

Thank you for opening this email. Thank you for reading and/or listening to my LoveGrams. Thank you for being someone with a warm heart and unique spirit. Thank you for your desire to live life with as much love, zest, color, and connection as possible.

Thank you for being YOU and for being here, with me.

Remember what Ram Dass said, “We are all just walking each other home.” Yup. You, me, everyone — on the path together, hand in hand.

 

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Today, I send you an old-fashioned, egg-shaped paper piñata filled with white feathers.

I send you the first notes of a song you love, which come dancing out of your car stereo just as you roll down the window and breathe in the fresh air.

I send you the way it feels to raise your arms over your head in bliss, shaking your head ‘n hips, and letting yourself be moved by the beat.

I send you a rainbow on your wooden floors, a little sign from life letting you know that childhood wonder still exists.

 

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Today’s LoveGram is brought to you courtesy of a music video I’ve watched countless times this week.

It is a LoveGram in service of paying attention to what moves us.

(To listen to the audio, just scroll down on that page and click play on the audio player below when you see it!)

 

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This week, I’m challenging you to pay attention to what makes you feel most alive in your life. What people? What colors? What conversations? What music? What birds? What flowers? What scents? What clothes? What art? What books? What conversations?

Please listen and do this: follow the thread of what moves you. Go where it wants to take you. Trust and lean into your life force.

There are so many pulls to be and do certain things that are what everyone else is doing. There can be voices in our heads telling us which way to go, what to say, how to feel.

This week, your job is to experiment with being moved by life. (Or, as my mentor, Brendon Burchard says, “Feel the day.”)

If you get a nudge to listen to a song again, do it. If you get a nudge to tell your friend Suzy about that hummingbird moment, do it. If you get a nudge to read a poem or listen to a song or reach out to a long-lost friend, PLEASE do it.

 

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We are on this carousel ride of life for such a very brief time.

Let yourself choose the white horse with the blue ribbon if that is the one that calls to you. Or, choose the black stallion that goes up and down. Or, bring a blanket and ride in the carriage pulled by two blue dragons if that’s where you want to be. Heck, feel free to jump on that silly leaping rabbit wearing a top hat, if that is the ride you want to be on!

Your challenge this week is to listen closely, lean in, and explore what your spirit is excited about.

Will you do that? Will you tell me about it? Email me and share one thing that brought you to life this week, okay?! I can’t always respond to every email, but you can bet that I read and enjoy every single one! And when you write it, it helps to anchor in what you are experiencing.

Let yourself be in conversation with what moves you! Watch where it takes you! Chance are, you will be astonished.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. Here’s the video I am enchanted with. Watch from minute 2 for about 30 seconds to see the magical piñata moment!!

P.P.S. AFTER you watch that little segment in the video, I want you to consider what happened to me just minutes after I recorded the audio and wrote the first draft of this LoveGram. Ready? I was pulling the comforter out of the duvet cover so I could wash it, when suddenly a flurry of white feathers poofed up around me and then fell like snow. I got to be the girl in the video! I’m not making this up. THAT is what happens when you get into conversation with something that moves you!