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LoveGram: What Moves You?

 

Hello wonderful friend.

Thank you for opening this email. Thank you for reading and/or listening to my LoveGrams. Thank you for being someone with a warm heart and unique spirit. Thank you for your desire to live life with as much love, zest, color, and connection as possible.

Thank you for being YOU and for being here, with me.

Remember what Ram Dass said, “We are all just walking each other home.” Yup. You, me, everyone — on the path together, hand in hand.

 

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Today, I send you an old-fashioned, egg-shaped paper piñata filled with white feathers.

I send you the first notes of a song you love, which come dancing out of your car stereo just as you roll down the window and breathe in the fresh air.

I send you the way it feels to raise your arms over your head in bliss, shaking your head ‘n hips, and letting yourself be moved by the beat.

I send you a rainbow on your wooden floors, a little sign from life letting you know that childhood wonder still exists.

 

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Today’s LoveGram is brought to you courtesy of a music video I’ve watched countless times this week.

It is a LoveGram in service of paying attention to what moves us.

(To listen to the audio, just scroll down on that page and click play on the audio player below when you see it!)

 

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This week, I’m challenging you to pay attention to what makes you feel most alive in your life. What people? What colors? What conversations? What music? What birds? What flowers? What scents? What clothes? What art? What books? What conversations?

Please listen and do this: follow the thread of what moves you. Go where it wants to take you. Trust and lean into your life force.

There are so many pulls to be and do certain things that are what everyone else is doing. There can be voices in our heads telling us which way to go, what to say, how to feel.

This week, your job is to experiment with being moved by life. (Or, as my mentor, Brendon Burchard says, “Feel the day.”)

If you get a nudge to listen to a song again, do it. If you get a nudge to tell your friend Suzy about that hummingbird moment, do it. If you get a nudge to read a poem or listen to a song or reach out to a long-lost friend, PLEASE do it.

 

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We are on this carousel ride of life for such a very brief time.

Let yourself choose the white horse with the blue ribbon if that is the one that calls to you. Or, choose the black stallion that goes up and down. Or, bring a blanket and ride in the carriage pulled by two blue dragons if that’s where you want to be. Heck, feel free to jump on that silly leaping rabbit wearing a top hat, if that is the ride you want to be on!

Your challenge this week is to listen closely, lean in, and explore what your spirit is excited about.

Will you do that? Will you tell me about it? Email me and share one thing that brought you to life this week, okay?! I can’t always respond to every email, but you can bet that I read and enjoy every single one! And when you write it, it helps to anchor in what you are experiencing.

Let yourself be in conversation with what moves you! Watch where it takes you! Chance are, you will be astonished.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. Here’s the video I am enchanted with. Watch from minute 2 for about 30 seconds to see the magical piñata moment!!

P.P.S. AFTER you watch that little segment in the video, I want you to consider what happened to me just minutes after I recorded the audio and wrote the first draft of this LoveGram. Ready? I was pulling the comforter out of the duvet cover so I could wash it, when suddenly a flurry of white feathers poofed up around me and then fell like snow. I got to be the girl in the video! I’m not making this up. THAT is what happens when you get into conversation with something that moves you!

 

LoveGram: Keep Breathing

 

Good morning my beautiful friend.

Thank you for being with me on this human journey.

Thank you for being someone who cares about loving and growing and allowing.

Thank you for being someone who shows up for yourself and for everything Life offers — all the grief and all the celebration and everything in between.

Today, I send you the tall, bold red hibiscus bloom that opened up unexpectedly — almost before my very eyes.

Today, I send you the words, “keep breathing,” from a song that showed up for me this morning. I send you the understanding that sometimes, sometimes, sometimes, that is all we can do. Sometimes, we can only keep breathing … and trust that we will get righted again from whatever has knocked us over.

Today I send you the taste of a chocolate truffle, this one spiced pumpkin. The next one, hazelnut.

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This week’s LoveGram emerged — once again as they often do!— from a song that Life gifted me with unexpectedly this morning.

The song is called, “Keep Breathing,” and it is from an album named, “Be Okay.”

Gotta love that, right? {insert smile here!}

To hear the audio LoveGram, click on the link, then scroll down on the page it sends you to, you’ll see the audio player.

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Last week, when you received my LoveGram, I was flying to Colorado to visit my dear friend, Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer. I shared with you a poem. I want you to hear it again.

I want you to pay attention to what happens for us when we repeat poems, prayers, or wisdoms.

What do we hear anew?

What layers get revealed that we missed?

In the case of today’s LoveGram, I invite us all to explore even more deeply what it means to live in a human body, experiencing grief and celebration.

And everything in between.

Can we allow ourselves the whole range of feelings and experiences?

Here’s the poem for you again:

Strange Bedmates

By Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer

grief and celebration

share the same bed—

one keeps stealing the blanket

the other

keeps knitting a beautiful new one

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There you have it. Grief and celebration. Two sides of the same human coin.

To me, being present in all of the feelings of being human, to allow ourselves the whole range of human experience is authentic celebration.

We must let ourselves feel the 10,000 joys and the 10,000 sorrows. We can help each other through the heavy, hard ones and we can celebrate together in the light ones.

I encourage you to allow it all. Accept it all.

Keep breathing through it all.

Keep breathing, even in the darkest moments.

Keep breathing in the sunlight.

You are okay. Be okay.

Thank you for being by my side for this journey.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

LoveGram: What Soothes You?

 

Hello my beautiful friend  …

Today I am writing to you from that place where it feels as if the veil has lifted a little. You know what veil I mean? That one that is usually there, protecting us from the deep grief that is possible as humans. That veil that allows us to go to the grocery store and wonder whether we should get peaches or plums, oat milk or soy milk, and should we splurge on the sunflowers?

We all know that ordinariness of life. We spend most of our time there, if we are lucky.

And we all know how it feels when we peek behind the veil and we suddenly feel our humanness deep in our bones. We feel the fragility of life. We remember what it is to be heartsick or deeply scared. We know what it means to love so much that it can hurt.

Do you have a sense of what I mean? Can you think of examples from your own life, past or present?

I hope you are doing well as you are reading this. I hope you are in that “ordinary” place. However, I know that someone or many someones reading this might be feeling fear, loss, or grief.

I’m here for all of you.

How do we take care of ourselves when we are going through a heart crisis, nightmare fear, or unimaginable grief?

How do we carry this when it is someone we love?

 

Today, my LoveGram is about finding small spaces that soothe us, no matter where we are in the spectrum of pain. Whether we’ve had a difficult conversation, a hard day, or we’re mourning the unbearable loss of someone we love, it’s crucial to know how to find moments of peace.

Last week, I shared about a specific kind of loss I was experiencing. Since then, a dear friend with the kindest heart and brightest laughter has suffered a heart-wrenching tragedy. As someone who loves her deeply, I’m thinking nonstop about how to stay close by her side in spirit and how to support her.

In this audio, just by talking to you, I discovered a way I could connect without words. I share this with you and hope we all remember that sometimes words are not quite right for the moment, but we can share our hearts and love with soothing music, sounds of nature, or ancient mantras.

Listen to today’s Audio LoveGram by clicking to this page now!

Just scroll down on that page until you see the audio player. Press play.  Voila!

Also, I want to repeat (for me as much as for you) what I said last week about a podcast I’d heard by Brené Brown in which she was talking about “comparative suffering.” While we don’t want to be inconsiderate or thoughtless around others who are grieving, we need to allow ourselves to feel our own pain and not cut it off because someone else is going through something way bigger, harder, or worse. By allowing ourselves to have our feelings, we are strengthening our empathy muscles and it allows us to open our hearts even wider to others.

If someone you love is experiencing big grief, you can still be sad about the losses in your own life. You’ll just want to process those alone or with other friends.

Yes, be mindful … but do give yourself permission to feel. It is the way through to the other side.

We humans were built to feel.

I know this is true.

Just as it is also true that when we open our hearts to what others are going through, it can put things into perspective for us. Not in a scolding or punishing way, but in a soft, gentle, reminding way.

 

It’s all there. We can hold it all. We’re strong enough.

We’re even stronger together.

After you listen to today’s LoveGram, consider what sounds are soothing to you. And if you have a loved one who is in pain, please create an audio for them with your loving voice and include some soothing sounds.

Can you do this?

I’ve been creating these Sunday LoveGrams since March of 2020. Having you here with me throughout this pandemic has been so important.

Being together in our experiences is truly a gift. It is one of the ways we support ourselves in navigating change.

Thank you!

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. Here’s the online web page where you can record an audio for someone you care about.

P.P.S. Here is a link to the beautiful song I played by David Ma. You can listen and/or purchase it here on Bandcamp. (This would be so wonderful to include in any audio message you create for someone you love.)

P.P.P.S. Here is a link to the beautiful Radhika Vekaria, who sings in Sanskrit. (This would be lovely to include in your audio note to someone you love, as well.)

{Uplift Gifts} Make a Musical Memory Lane

 

I have a great gift idea I call the “Musical Memory Lane.”

The idea is to create a gift for someone that is centered around a collection of songs — it could be even just one or two— that have significance to you and this other person. 

Music has a way of connecting us directly to a period of time or an occasion.

I know this, because just a few minutes ago I created an audio note for a college friend. On a whim, I started and ended that recording with songs from the 1980’s — since that is when I met her and when we were at university together.

I want you to try this yourself because adding those songs in really deepened my connection to my friend.

It was like time travel! I saw her playing the piano for me in the big common room. I saw us laughing together as we dressed for an island-themed party. I saw us having burritos and studying together in the library.

Something about music does this. It strikes a chord in us! (hee hee)

Right now, think about someone who is graduating, getting married, or who has a birthday coming up. You could also think about this as a Father’s Day gift for your own dad — or any dad in your life.

But listen, you can also do just what I did: simply add a song to an audio note for a friend.

It doesn’t have to be a big deal! 

Or, if you don’t want to fuss with making an audio recording, you can just copy and paste a link to a music video into a text. Add a few words, “This song made me think about the time we ____. I love you.”

It can be that simple. 

Will you give it a try?

Let me know!

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. Here’s a link to an article that tells you all about the Musical Memory Lane — some background info plus the how-to, step by step. Or, if you prefer visuals, here’s an infographic posted to Pinterest.

P.P.S. If all that seems like too much, remember, you can simply send one song to someone. That, too, is a gift. Take the time for this. YOU will love it, I promise.

We need more joy!

Remember last week I was telling you the story of how my beau and I almost missed the crazy beautiful lunar eclipse?

I made a video about it because it has such an impact on me. I mean, heck, I’m a coach. I talk about following through on intention all the time. And yet, that ole Squawky Polly mind almost had me choose the comfy couch over a rare (and romantic) lunar happening!

How is it possible to be so easily lured into listening to a voice in my head that tells me what I should do or not do?  Especially when I know that voice is always wanting me to lie low and live listlessly?

I’ve been thinking about this so much lately.

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Here’s something related, something I also nearly missed: The Edwardian Ball.

Every year in San Francisco (and Los Angeles, too!) there is an enchanting steampunk event filled with music, performances, fashion, and a whole lotta beauty.

Ian and I almost skipped it this year. “It’s too expensive.” “Finding what to wear takes so much time.” “Do we really need to attend again?”

There were those voices. There was that same process of dragging us down.

Thank goodness we didn’t listen. Instead, we focused on how connecting it is for us to go and how it always makes us so happy.

And so … we went. we had a blast, it was an amazing night!

I’ve been thinking about how important it is for people to be surrounded by beauty, color, music, and laughter.

We need it.

It would be easy to think of something like this ball as frivolous when there are so many serious and important happenings in the world. When there is so much hardship. When there is so much violence, anger, and divisiveness.

But an event like this feeds people’s spirits. I think it brings us back to our basic human joy of being together in celebration. Being called to be creative and being given the space for self -expression are so important.

Lightness + joy can bring out the best in us.

I know it is a luxury. And I am so grateful.

 

This makes me think about when I visited Mali, West Africa, in the 1990’s. I was enchanted with the colorful clothing and with the drumming/music. People gathered outside frequently to be together and sing/dance/play music. There is such a depth of connection that comes from that shared joy. Music and color and expression are woven into the culture.

It seemed to me that families didn’t need a reason to dance, sing, or wear colorful clothing. They just created it. In the mud huts or in the dusty streets. An abundance of joy and community.

We need more of it. (Joy, laughter, community.)

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What does it look like for YOU?

I don’t know what it looks like for you. It might not be African drumming or a steampunk ball. Maybe it is listening to classical music while watching the lunar eclipse. Maybe it is baking cookies with your children and decorating them in crazy colors then dancing around the kitchen together. Maybe it is wearing your best dress + lighting some candles when you make pizza at home with your spouse tomorrow evening. Maybe it is making art and hiding it for people to find in a public place. Maybe it is going to see dance or an art exhibit that calls to you. Maybe it is knitting colorful gloves for the homeless. Maybe it is making art yourself, even with finger paints. Maybe it is simply singing out loud as you walk home from the bus stop.

What kind of music or self-expression or color do you long to have more of in your life?

Do you have the support you need to keep moving toward it?

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Joy is infectious.

I know part of the reason this Edwardian Ball is so much fun is because everyone who attends REALLY SHOWS UP. People take the time to create amazing costumes and to bring an openness to be enchanted. They show up ready to connect + laugh.

I’ve attended a camp for adults that is called Life is a Verb Camp, created by Patti Digh. It is completely different, but also the same. People show up for that event ready to experience magic and connection. There is an intention set way before the camp ever starts. People crave creativity + authentic connection and so they become it. They bring it.

I think we need more of this in our daily lives. This intention to find magic.

When I write that, I can’t help but think of Bill Cunningham, who said, “Those who seek beauty are sure to find it.”

We can be better at helping one another seek and create beauty and joy.

And why not? Life is fleeting. It goes by so fast! We can create excuses to dance and laugh together. We can make up holidays. We can celebrate way more than we allow ourselves to.

Let’s do!

I really think one of my main purposes here on earth, but more specifically, as a high performance coach, is to help people open up more and more to what lights them up. What feels like a celebration of your own unique spirit?

From that lit-up place of celebration in ourselves and our own lives, we easily access a well of generosity to give to others.

As I’m writing that, I’m thinking how much fun it would be to do a very small group coaching program that kickstarts that place of being lit up. How great it would be to journey together and explore who we want to be in the world and how we find the energy/time to make that happen.

What do you think?

Email me at Sherry @Simplycelebrate.net and let me know if you’d like to be a part of a short, three or four- week kickstart joy group.

 

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry