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{Celebration Moment} No Regret.

 

Hello my friend!

Earlier this week, I was listening to an audio by my mentor, Brendon Burchard on the topic of “no regret.”

Something he said really jumped out at me: “Don’t just think about who you are — express it!”

This quote reminded me of the rather famous book by Bronnie Ware, “The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.” Bronnie was a hospice nurse and she wrote about the poignant and powerful things that her patients most regretted.

The first one she writes about is: “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”

Please pause for moment and think about this for yourself.

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Due to a lot of cultural conditioning, sometimes we are more concerned with fitting in or belonging than we are in being true to who we really are.

I sure know this place.

As a young person, I experienced that longing to belong to such a degree that at some point it felt like I had lost myself. As the years passed and I entered my late twenties, I grew deeply depressed — though on the outside I remained bubbly and fun because that’s who I thought people wanted me to be.

Looking back, I see that it was repression of my authentic self that was causing the depression. I call that person “Cardboard Sherry,” because she feels so flat, so uninspired.

She was afraid that she wouldn’t be loved. She so desperately wanted love that she gave up her own desires, opinions, and beliefs in order to fit in, thinking that would get her love.

Thankfully, I was led to meditation and creativity. As I began an intentional path of presence and true creative expression — connecting to writing, art, dance, quirky events, and unconventional living — the depression lifted.

I was buoyed by living my life.

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I’ll be 58 this year and I feel more alive and more myself than ever before. This past weekend, I donned a pink bobbed wig, green crinoline, fingerless gloves, and bubblegum-colored combat boots to attend the Edwardian Ball with my beau. 

(Note: in case you missed my Sunday LoveGram, it was all about using joy to fuel us in these times of heartbreak and grief.)

Dancing in the historic ballroom filled with colorful and creative Edward Gorey-esque characters — San Franciscans and kindred spirits from all over — I felt as if I’d fully come home to myself.

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I’ve realized over the years that the true sense of belonging comes not from pretending to be like others, but from being 100% myself.

It comes from belonging to my own heart and belonging in my own life. It comes from belonging with others who are committed to the living their best, most authentic life.

And you know what? That’s what I appreciate so much about you.

We are a community of people who are chipping away at regret and taking steps toward living fully expressed.

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There is so much heartache in the world right now, I encourage you to find a slice of time to connect with whatever kind of novelty or play YOU love.

What brings you to life? You deserve it and I promise you, it will energize you and lift your spirit. 

In my coaching group this week, we went around the circle and shared moments that we felt most alive.

It was extraordinarily uplifting to hear each person’s story.

I would love to hear yours. If you want, please email me a photo that shows YOU living your best self out loud. Tell me a sentence or two about it.

I promise you, sharing it will lift you up. And I know, it will elevate my spirits, too. When we are fully alive and when we share those stories of feeling fully alive, it is palpable joy.

Your vitality is a gift for everyone. 

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YOU MATTER!

I can’t wait to share in your joy of being alive.

Celebration is waiting for us. 

I love you and am cheering you on, always.

Thanks for who you are.

Seek celebration — even in the dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

Lovegram: Open the Door!

 

Hello and Happy Sunday …

Today I am sending you the happy faces of Arnold and his two brothers — photo above.

I am sending you the quiet ease of a Sunday and the possibility of a shared meal with family or some space alone to read and reflect.

I am sending you renewed enthusiasm for the beauty of a single flower, that resilient old oak tree, or a hummingbird’s zing.

💥💓💥

Today, my LoveGram is about the gift of warmth, friendliness, and opening the door to connection. 

Hear today’s Audio LoveGram now! 

Just scroll down on this page until you see the audio player. Click play! Voila!

After you listen to today’s LoveGram, consider some places in your life where you may want to bring a little extra spirited enthusiasm. 

Can you be the one in your family or at work to lift everyone’s mood with your enthusiasm? Can you bring a smile to a stranger’s face on the bus or whom you pass on your walk? 

How would you intentionally bring some extra zest to YOURSELF?

We can practice feeling connected. We can practice feeling energized. We can practice being more open, loving and kind. We can practice small shifts and notice the impact. 

I’ve been creating these Sunday LoveGrams since March of 2020. Having you here with me throughout this pandemic has been so important. Being together in our experiences is truly a gift.

Thank you.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. That’s Arnold and his brothers in the photo up above. I was so delighted by their bright energy and joyful demeanors, that I had asked them if I could take a photo of them together. I’m glad I did, because I texted it to Arnold while we were still chatting so they could have a souvenir of their time together. He texted me later and now we can stay connected! Arnold gave me permission to use the photo and share this story with you.

 

A l’il weekend zest…

I hope you’re having a wonderful week.

Are you winding down your summer? Or is still in full throttle?

Sending you wishes for a weekend full of ease and playful interactions. May you laugh a lot. May you watch a sunset. May you walk barefoot in the grass. May you sing out loud (on or off key!) to a song you love.

Today I collected for you just a few this and that’s, which I’ve been meaning to tell you about, but just haven’t had the chance.

These are some fun and high-energy video conversations plus some written words.

I hope you hear or read something that gives you an idea of one simple way to experience or give more love.

May they give you some sparks of inspiration + joy!

 

1. I had so much fun during this video conversation with Carrie Roldan. We talked a lot about “How to become your future self.” In other words, how do we begin to live more fully the life that is calling to us? I’m pretty sure I talk about hats a lot in this one! This is a must-listen in you need some oomph and a l’il kickstart!

2. I got to give a love gesture suggestion in Parents Magazine about a version of the Love List for children’s lunch bags. If you are a parent, definitely check out this article for all the ideas! There are some great suggestions to slip some nurturing in with all those luncheon nutrients.

3. Here’s my latest guest post in the wonderful website, Kind Over Matter. This is called, “Make a Date with Love,” and gives you an easy-peasy way to tend to relationships all year long. I hope everyone will try this!

4. For any creative types out there, and you know I believe that is everyone, this is a conversation with Ronnie Walter when she interviewed me for her “Coffee with Ronnie” show. Ronnie is a breath of fresh air and we cover all kinds of topics around living a creative life. Grab your mug o’ joe, or drink of your choice, lie in the hammock, and listen in.

 

I’m off to finish my own morning coffee, meditate, and then live out this brand new day. It is very sunny and I’m headed to the beach with a friend later. I think the forecast calls for parasols.

Sending you hugs and surprises.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,
xo Sherry

 

P.S. Don’t forget to find a way to “Say it Now” today — and everyday.