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LoveGram: About Birthdays!

Welcome to your Sunday audio LoveGram.

Today I send you a pink flamingo.

I send you a sunflower, suddenly blossomed, in your front yard.

I send you a song, sung just for you, with just the right words to make you feel loved and understood.

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Hey! Today is my birthday! (That’s little me, up above in the photo. I guess I loved hats even 50+ years ago!)

So, in celebration, today’s audio LoveGram is focused on ways to celebrate someone without that cookie-cutter imperative, “Happy Birthday.”

AND, we also touch on how to make YOUR birthday fit where you are in the moment. (It’s your birthday, you can cry if you want to!)

In other words, balloons and confetti are great when they suit the mood and feel real. But let’s pause at birthday time (yours or someone else’s!) and think about what’s right for this moment.

Don’t just rush at ’em with that overdone birthday song, put yourself in their shoes and imagine what kind of love they really need.

(To listen to the audio, just click over to this page, scroll down, and hit “play” on the audio player.)

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Special thanks to Becky DeRoches, whose personalized birthday song to me kicked off our audio today! You can listen to the whole song on the audio LoveGram page for this week.

Becky sent me this song for my 50th birthday, eight years ago. I listen to it every single year on my birthday. It is a shining, beautiful example of “Say it Now” in action.

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[Spoiler alert]

I know that some of you prefer to read rather than listen. So, I’m gonna give you the nuts and bolts right here. However, I encourage you to listen because there is so much subtlety to this topic.

(And, you will get to hear Becky’s song!)

Ready?

Here are two things I want you to think about when it comes to birthdays:

When it is your birthday, give yourself permission to ask for what you want or need.

Your celebration could be a dinner party or dancing. It could be tea with a friend or reading a book under a tree. Follow YOUR energy and heart. And reach out to ask for people to show up in a way that will most support you.

When it is your birthday or someone else’s birthday, there is no requirement to have a “Happy Birthday.”

Please try to pause before you sing the birthday song to someone or text a dancing “Happy Birthday” gif to them. Consider whether they are grieving, lost, or lonely. If they are having a challenging time, send them love and appreciation. Be real. And thoughtful. Don’t simply resort to a sing-songy message that may leave them feeling worse.

If you want to hear a more in-depth explanation of why these are so important and necessary, listen to your audio LoveGram now!

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Thank you, as always, for being here. I love sharing life with you. 

I know you. I see your generous heart. 

I know you want to bring more life into your life. 

I applaud you for being someone on a path of awareness and who practices joy. 

Be intentional. 

Be courageous. 

Be willing to celebrate yourself and others in ways that are authentic and perfect for the moment. 

Sending you love.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S.  I launched my Birthday Kindness Project earlier this week and opened up slots for letters to people who needs boosts of love. Thank you to everyone who responded! I love you and will get back to each of you within a few days! 

P.P.S Want to help me celebrate my birthday in the best way possible? I would be so grateful if you would purchase my book, “Say it Now.” The message of expressing our love and appreciation is so important to me. Your support means TONS! If you’ve already bought a copy, would you consider clicking that same link and leaving a review or purchasing a copy for a friend or your local library? THANK YOU! 

Permission, Take 2

 

How are you, my friend?

On Sunday, my audio LoveGram was all about giving yourself permission to really accept and love who you ARE

Please, do NOT try to squeeze yourself into a container that is the wrong size.

Find the YOU-sized container and trust how perfect it is. Trust how perfect you are.

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Your celebration moment this week is to close your eyes and see if you can breathe in a feeling of deep acceptance and love for WHO YOU ARE.

Can you trust that you are lovable exactly as you are?

I want that for YOU.

I want that for every person on this planet.

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I’ve realized over the years that the true sense of belonging comes not from thinking I need to be like others or that I somehow need to mold myself into some perfect person, but from being 100% myself.

It comes from belonging to my own heart and belonging in my own life.

It comes from belonging with others who are committed to the living their best, most unique and authentic life.

And you know what? That’s what I appreciate so much about you.

We taking steps, one by one, to become who we really are.

Yep, that’s what we’re celebrating today!

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YOU MATTER!

YOU, exactly who you are. Not some fictional idea of who you should be.

Celebration is waiting for us.

It is right here, in this moment, when we love who we are, the people around us, and the shape of our lives.

I love you and am cheering you on, always.

Thanks for who you are.

Seek celebration — even in the dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

LoveGram: 100% YOU!

 

 

Today, I send you pink streaks painted across the morning’s stark white sky.

I send you the sunset-colored baby roses braving the 39 degree weather as they blossom on the vine.

I send you the bottle top I found on the sidewalk — a big happy smile cheering us on.

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Today’s audio LoveGram is all about YOU!

It is about my wishes for you.

Listen by clicking to this page, then scrolling down until you see the audio player.

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Beautiful friend, it is the second day of a brand new year. Are you giving yourself permission to start over?

Are you allowing yourself to reset and refresh?

We’ve been through a couple years of big losses. There’s been lots of grief, illness, disappointment, and hardship. And yet, here we are, still standing. Here we are, holding hands as we walk each other home, over and over again. (Thank you, Ram Dass for that image!)

I recorded today’s audio LoveGram for you as I was out walking yesterday morning. I didn’t intend to do it. I wasn’t planning to talk to you right then. But I was listening to an audio book called, “Originals” by Adam Grant and all of the sudden, I found myself switching from listening to talking.

Something in me simply wanted to connect with YOU.

And without pausing, I did what was in me, wanting to be done.

THIS is what I wish for you in 2022! To listen to what moves you.

I wish for you to wade past those doubting voices in your own head.

I wish for you to set your gaze way past other people’s approval or understanding.

I wish for you to understand that there is something extraordinary that animates you and whatever that is, is guiding you to greater expression.

Please give yourself permission to fully step into your unique self.

Love the way you want to love. Say the things you want to say. Skip down the street if you feel like it. Sing in the grocery store if you want to. Send that letter. Buy those flowers. Paint the room hot pink. Return the library book unfinished. Mix plaids and paisleys.

Honey, you can live by your own rules.

Listen, I know you. I see your beautiful heart. I know that when I say “your own rules” you aren’t going to be out in the world causing harm to yourself, to others, or the planet.

No.

What I know is that you are unique in all the world. I know your heart speaks to you. I know you have recurring ideas, dreams, wishes, and wants. I know that you don’t always allow what is in you to come forward.

In 2022, I want you to follow your instincts more often and not listen to the Squawky Polly policing voice in your head, the crowds outside your door, or the clamor on social media.

I want you to BE YOU.

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In my LoveGram, I quote my mentor, Brendon Burchard, who says, “feel the day.” What is it that allows you to feel more alive? To feel more connected? To feel as if every cell in your body is dancing with life force?

That isn’t a rhetorical question. I want you to answer it. I want you to open up your journal and write a list of things that help you come to your senses. These are the things that will lead you home to yourself!

Off the top of my head right now, here are some things that make me feel alive:

  • Making an audio for you and feeling as if you are seeing the pink streaks in the sky alongside me.
  • Skipping because I feel like it.
  • Wearing my multi-colored knitted scarf with my different colored, multi-colored knitted hat and my still-different multi-colored knitted fingerless gloves and loving the symphony of mis-matched colors.
  • Holding my butterscotch tabby cat and feeling her purr. Believing that she can understand my thoughts and talking to her out loud.
  • Making odd things into ornaments for the Christmas tree — room keys from hotels, pencils + crumbled up essays from my son, birthday cake toppers, key chains.
  • Printing out LOVE LISTS with glittery “Celebrate” at the top to tape to the tiramisu boxes on New Year’s Eve.
  • Putting fresh lime in my kombucha. Spritzing some on my hand, simply because I so love the scent.
  • Strings of lights in the backyard connecting my studio to the house.
  • Splurging on art that touches my heart.
  • Reading a poem by candlelight.

 

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Now, it’s your turn. Don’t think about it; just write. There are no right answers. Just let yourself write about things that make you feel alive. Things that make you feel like YOU.

Now, enter 2022 promising yourself that you will live that list. You will add to that list. You will listen when a sweet voice deep inside you says, “Skip.” Or, it says, “Pick up that smiley face on the sidewalk.” Or, it says, “Call your sister and thank her for the moment at Christmas when you both burst out laughing until you had tears in your eyes.” Or, “Wear the fancy pink dress.”

Listen to what is inside you, begging to be let out to play.

We have the gift of this day. We don’t know if we will be here tomorrow.

Use it to be as much YOU as you can be!

Believe me, that is the best gift you can give the world.

I love you.

Thank you for being by my side.

Thank you for sharing my values of friendship, family, creativity, celebration, and joy.

Thank you for choosing to step out of the cookie cutter life and be courageous enough to live out loud who you really are.

Who you are is perfect.

You make a difference.

You matter!

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. If you want to have some fun practicing being YOU, join my free 5-day mini-course called Olly Olly Oxen Free: Permission and Belonging. Every day you receive a short video from me with an encouragement to take an action that will support you in feeling more connected and alive. Try it out and let me know what you think! I’m here, cheering you on!