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Permission, Take 2

 

How are you, my friend?

On Sunday, my audio LoveGram was all about giving yourself permission to really accept and love who you ARE

Please, do NOT try to squeeze yourself into a container that is the wrong size.

Find the YOU-sized container and trust how perfect it is. Trust how perfect you are.

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Your celebration moment this week is to close your eyes and see if you can breathe in a feeling of deep acceptance and love for WHO YOU ARE.

Can you trust that you are lovable exactly as you are?

I want that for YOU.

I want that for every person on this planet.

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I’ve realized over the years that the true sense of belonging comes not from thinking I need to be like others or that I somehow need to mold myself into some perfect person, but from being 100% myself.

It comes from belonging to my own heart and belonging in my own life.

It comes from belonging with others who are committed to the living their best, most unique and authentic life.

And you know what? That’s what I appreciate so much about you.

We taking steps, one by one, to become who we really are.

Yep, that’s what we’re celebrating today!

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YOU MATTER!

YOU, exactly who you are. Not some fictional idea of who you should be.

Celebration is waiting for us.

It is right here, in this moment, when we love who we are, the people around us, and the shape of our lives.

I love you and am cheering you on, always.

Thanks for who you are.

Seek celebration — even in the dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

LoveGram: Permission to take up space

Hey Beautiful friend,

Welcome to this week’s LoveGram. I’m happy you are here. I’m happy to be here with YOU!

Today, I send you a suitcase large enough to fit your huge, generous heart.

I send you the biggest, most prominent seat at the table.

I send you that feeling of being filled up with worthiness and self-love.

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In today’s LoveGram, we talk about what it feels like to try to squeeze ourselves into a container that is not quite the right size.

I ask the question, for all of us, “What is the YOU-size and will you allow yourself to ease into it and be as YOU as you possibly can?”

How can we give ourselves real permission to express who we are, even when we feel like who we are is not the “right person”?

(To listen to the audio, just click over to this page, scroll down, and hit “play” on the audio player.)

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Here are the Cliff’s Notes. (Remember those? Those little black and gold booklets that gave the gist of novels without any of the poetry of the writing. And, yeah, when I looked up the name I was shocked that it wasn’t Cliff Notes, but Cliff’s!)

I’m headed on a three-week trip. I thought the really kind thing to do for myself would be to take a carry-on suitcase. After all, I’m traveling from Paris to Toulouse to Barcelona to Seville to Lisbon. There will surely be a lot of trains and metros and stairs and what-have-yous. I will be up and down a lot of stairs and going to and fro.

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Now, what you need to know about me is that I don’t travel light. I never have.

If I go away for a weekend, I typically take ten bags. I take food and my yoga mat and seventeen books and project files and several changes of hats and … well, you get the picture.

I am not a “good” packer. I am not that girl who arrives with a tiny bag that looks like a purse and inside it is a bathing suit that doubles as an evening dress that doubles as hiking shorts.

We’ve all met her, right? Maybe you are her?!

But, nope. Not me.

In fact, I am a girl who usually travels with an extra-special, little, flowered suitcase just for my hats! I would have done really well back in 1902, lugging a few steamer trunks with me, happy as a clam.

However, here we are in 2022. And, somewhere buried in my consciousness is the belief that “a good person” is a minimalist. A “good person” is that handbag-carrying gal. A “good person” is someone who does not take up a lot of space.

So, long-story-short, I tried to test-pack last weekend and it was a disaster. I was so frustrated and sad. Those carry-on bags are teeny tiny! I couldn’t fit my orange and black happy shoes with the x’s and o’s like kisses and hugs all over them. I couldn’t fit my fun faux-fur coat. Yeesh, I couldn’t even squeeze in an umbrella!

I felt so disappointed in myself. And could feel the stress of it.

Thankfully, GRACE dropped in. (Thank you, universe!)

I often listen to a meditation as I am falling asleep. During the meditation, I heard a voice, as if someone were in the room with me. It said, “Honey, you are not a carry-on kinda gal.”

There was so much compassion and love in that voice I heard.

I suddenly felt so light and free. I could be ME! I could take a larger suitcase and check it. I wouldn’t overpack and make it too heavy to carry on stairs, but it would be bigger than that thimble-sized carry-on, for sure!

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This all brings to mind a favorite quote by ee cummings: “It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.”

Today’s audio LoveGram is all about that courage to step into who YOU are.

I was trying to squeeze myself into a carry-on size container, when really, I need a couple steamer trunks.

I hope you will listen and reflect on what this means to you.

You can find that audio here.

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I will be traveling for a few weeks. But that doesn’t mean I don’t love you!

I’ve scheduled a couple blogs to post for you while I am gone. That way, you will know you are on my mind, even as I pack my big ole trunk and fly across the ocean.

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While I’m away, I hope you will practice radical self-acceptance.

I can assure you, it is freeing and fun.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

Xo Sherry

 

P.S. Drat! I included some music on my audio, but missed my chance. I could have used the Peter, Paul, and Mary song, “Leaving on a Jet Plane!” (You can hum it to yourself right now!)

P.P.S. Last Wednesday, April 13th, The Mango Publishing Heart Wisdom Panel I facilitated was focused on “Fierce Kindness and Courage.”  I encourage you to watch the replay. It was very thought-provoking — especially the parts about when honesty is kind or not!

 

LoveGram: Look in your backyard!

 

Hello, my dear friend.

Something different happened today.

Before I came out to my studio to connect with you and create my weekly LoveGram, I was listening to a Dr. Joe (Dispenza) meditation. During that meditation, I got the guidance to send you last week’s audio LoveGram again.

What? That seemed like strange guidance. I wasn’t sure what it meant.

But, what came along next was an encouragement for me to take a walk and re-listen to last week’s message.

So, I did.

I have a promise to myself that I will listen to guidance the drops in, no matter what. Even if I don’t understand it. Even if it seems odd!

I got dressed, donned my mask and walking shoes, and headed out. It was 7am and the light was lovely. The air was crisp and cool. I put on my headphones and pressed “play” as I walked.

As soon as I began to listen to last week’s audio, I realized something so important for myself: although I have a practice called Recording and Listening, in which I make positive, present, supportive audios for myself and listen to them over and over, I do not ever re-listen to the LoveGrams I make for you.

In fact, I never listen even once! I record them, send them to you, and then move on with my day.

It was a fascinating experience to re-listen to last week’s audio!

First of all, I loved hearing the song by Diana Ross, “I’m Coming Out.” I noticed an instant uplift simply from that song.

Then, I realized that Joe Dispenza and Life were guiding me to offer us a specific perspective today. And that perspective is that we don’t always have to be seeking out new guidance, new input, new shiny trinkets.

If we look around our lives, we will see that we have SO MUCH right here that we have not fully appreciated, used, consumed or completed. 

We have untapped resources right in front of us. 

What is that expression? “Acres of diamonds in our own backyard.”

(I took a short detour just now and Googled that expression. You can, too, if you want to read more. However, the gist of it is that we think we need to go to new places for our fortune, but it is likely right here where we are.)

As I walked in the early morning and listened to the audio, I heard things I didn’t even remember that I’d said. I heard myself talking about the importance of seeing 2021 as a time to recommit to the life I want to live. As a time to surround myself with people who will help me feel more like me. As a time to connect, even when I may feel shy or uncomfortable.

I also really felt that message that I just told you — that I have so many unused resources in my life and I want to use them. I want to tap the riches that are right here, in me and in my life!

Sometimes we need to remember that we already have what we need. 

I love that I was guided to see all of this today. I hope it is a message that resonates with you, too.

I want you to do something for me. I want you to see what happens when you listen to last week’s audio again. Chances are likely that your ole Squawky Polly mind will whine and complain — “I’m too busy to re-listen to something. What’s the point? That’s a waste of time.”

Listen, anyway.

I’m certain that when you do, you will hear something or notice something brand new.

What I want for you is the experience I just had of understanding that we do not always need the next new book or next new teacher or next new experience. 

We can cultivate the diamonds in our own backyard. 

Here’s last week’s audio LoveGram. Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to do something completely different while you are listening. If you usually listen while lying on the couch, go for a walk. If you usually listen while doing the dishes, try sitting on your porch.

Experience something brand new.

I dare you.

I dare you to dig for diamonds, even if you don’t believe they’re there.

Look what happened for me today! YOU inspired all of this. YOU helped me find some glittering jewels in unexpected places. If it weren’t for you, I wouldn’t have seen all of this. 

You are that powerful. 

You are that important. 

Thanks for being by my side.

I’m here for you, too.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

🌺  P.S. See that art up at top? That was a new mural I noticed yesterday when I was wandering around San Francisco. I’d been feeling so trapped in my same-same world of quarantine, that I set off on a walking adventure. Simply seeing new murals and all the twinkly lights from so many outdoor parklets made me feel fresh and free. That was another example of diamonds in my own backyard, right?)

🌺  P. P.S. Here’s the link to sign up for my free 5-day Permission + Belonging Challenge.  Join in! And if you are jonesing for some community and connection right now, you can also join me in my brand new coaching-meets-social club live group offering.

🌺  P.P.P.S. Here’s the link to the make-you-feel-like-dancing song by Diana Ross, “I’m Coming Out.”

 

This girl. You.

 

Do you ever catch sight of yourself in the mirror or shadow and think, “Wow, this person has been with me every step of the way. This person has never left my side. She’s trusted me all my life to do the best I can for her.”

I just noticed my shadow as I was rushing up the stairs to catch a train. I felt this flush of affection. This girl has tried so hard all her life to do the right thing, to offer kindness and to find her path. For so many years.. decades!… it all felt so hard. Such a challenge to simply “be.” So many questions of, “Is this enough?” “Am I enough?”

And so this morning, when I noticed her looking kinda Mary Poppins-ish in her shadow, I was overcome with gratitude.

I really like this girl.

And she really likes the world.

Even with all its heartbreak & horrors, she chooses to be here and bring as much light as she can.

She chooses to look for the beauty and love.

It took a whole lot of meditation, reflection, acceptance, and pushing up against internal & external expectations, but this is a new moment. This is a place of permission to be me. Just me, plain & simple.

I wish this for everyone. This feeling that however & whomever we are — through & through— is PERFECT.

We are lovable and perfect exactly as we are.

No hoops to jump through. No masks to don. No uniforms or conformity.

I want to play a larger role in giving people permission to not only be who they are, but to celebrate that person grandly.

I want to help people live & love OUT LOUD.

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Do you recall a time recently when you felt that permission to be absolutely who you are?

Where were you? Who were you with? What do you think enabled you to feel that acceptance and love for yourself?

I’d love to hear! Will you share your story?

 

Seek celebration — even in the dark corners,

xo Sherry