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{Celebration Superstar} You can be a tiny bit courageous!


I’m excited to introduce you to a Celebration Superstar, Tom Bartley.

Remember in a recent audio LoveGram when I talked to you about taking the challenge to connect with someone during what might typically be a transactional moment — at a store, at the post office, passing someone on the street?

I shared with you some ideas from a Secret Agents of Change mission and invited you to give it a whirl.

Did you?

Well, the reason Tom is a superstar in my book is because he tried it!  And I’m so proud of him.


I recently met Tom and his wife Staci at a cafe in Fairfield, California.

Well, what I mean is that I met them in person. I’d actually known (and loved) them both for several years after we met online after I published an article about relationships.

Staci and Tom have a beautiful business focused on helping couples have deeper, more honest, more loving relationships.

They are an incredibly joyful and compassionate couple. I was so excited to get the chance to meet them in person!


When we met, our conversation naturally turned to relationships. I told them how fascinated I’d been recently with the idea of connecting with strangers in new ways.

Tom pointed out that he thought it was easy for his wife and me to connect with strangers because we have a lot of practice. He wondered aloud what it would take for someone who was a tiny bit shy to open up to a stranger and intentionally make a connection. 

I said, “Well, how about if you try it out and see what happens?”

I challenge Tom to connect to the owner of the restaurant, Guy, who had stopped by our table earlier to check in on us.

Tom took that challenge!

The next time Guy passed by, Tom stopped him and wondered if he could ask Guy a question.

If you click here you can hear Tom talk about what happened! 


Tom, when you read this, I hope you will appreciate yourself for being courageous enough to open up to a stranger.

It sounds like a simple thing, but it isn’t! It is bravery!

Many of us have donned metaphorical suits of armor in order to protect ourselves from being disappointed or rejected. 

However, those suits of armor also keep us from spontaneous connection and shared joy. 

Did YOU let down your guard this week?

Did you have a moment of connection with someone where you left knowing that you made their day a little brighter?

If so, really let yourself FEEL the significance of that. I mean it.

If not, guess what? Today is another day!

It is a brand new moment and chances are likely you will cross another person’s path. You can be courageous. You can lift their spirits with a genuine hello and a pause to listen to how the are doing.

Will you do this?  Just look at the experience Tom had!



Celebration is waiting for us. 

It is right here, in this moment, when we love who we are, the people around us, and the shape of our lives. 

I love you and am cheering you on, always.

Thanks for who you are.

Seek celebration — even in the dark corners,

xo Sherry


P.S. You saw Tom’s video … here’s the one I took of Tom interacting with Guy! (With permission, of course.)


Lovegram: Open the Door!


Hello and Happy Sunday …

Today I am sending you the happy faces of Arnold and his two brothers — photo above.

I am sending you the quiet ease of a Sunday and the possibility of a shared meal with family or some space alone to read and reflect.

I am sending you renewed enthusiasm for the beauty of a single flower, that resilient old oak tree, or a hummingbird’s zing.


Today, my LoveGram is about the gift of warmth, friendliness, and opening the door to connection. 

Hear today’s Audio LoveGram now! 

Just scroll down on this page until you see the audio player. Click play! Voila!

After you listen to today’s LoveGram, consider some places in your life where you may want to bring a little extra spirited enthusiasm. 

Can you be the one in your family or at work to lift everyone’s mood with your enthusiasm? Can you bring a smile to a stranger’s face on the bus or whom you pass on your walk? 

How would you intentionally bring some extra zest to YOURSELF?

We can practice feeling connected. We can practice feeling energized. We can practice being more open, loving and kind. We can practice small shifts and notice the impact. 

I’ve been creating these Sunday LoveGrams since March of 2020. Having you here with me throughout this pandemic has been so important. Being together in our experiences is truly a gift.

Thank you.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry


P.S. That’s Arnold and his brothers in the photo up above. I was so delighted by their bright energy and joyful demeanors, that I had asked them if I could take a photo of them together. I’m glad I did, because I texted it to Arnold while we were still chatting so they could have a souvenir of their time together. He texted me later and now we can stay connected! Arnold gave me permission to use the photo and share this story with you.


Invitation to Bliss!



Don’t you just love the smile on Birgit’s face in that photo up above? She radiates joy!

Birgit Penzenstadler is a beautiful person in our community whom I’ve gotten to know over the years. She always takes my “say it now” or “celebrate now” suggestions and immediately puts them into action.

Birgit brings me so much delight by letting me know how she’s expressing appreciation to people in her life and also how she’s living joy out loud.

Birgit is dedicated to love, joy, connection, and bliss.

That’s why today I’m raising a glass to her and recognizing her as my very first Celebration Superstar, a monthly recognition for people who embody the spirit of Simply Celebrate and Say it Now.

If you scroll down (below my signature) you’ll see a couple photos of the many, many that Birgit has emailed me over the years. I don’t know how many Love Lists she has made, but I bet they are impossible to count! Birgit also hosted a Love List party for her friends when my book, “Say it Now,” was first published.

(If you are new to my world, a Love List is simply a brainstorm list of specific reasons why we love someone and what makes them unique. It’s what you appreciate about them. This list can be sweet, funny, sexy, or serious. It can include any number of loving attributes, characteristics, or memories about someone. It is a simple idea with a profound impact.)

As well, Birgit was one of the 200+ of you who took time to send my mom a card for her 80th birthday gift of a “Greeting Card Bonanza.”

Birgit also responds to my many email questions, such as, “Will you take time to stop today and notice something beautiful?” I remember that one because she sent me a photo from her afternoon walk in the sun when she paused to bask in the beauty of nature and saw a lovely, unique bird!

Two more things I’m celebrating about Birgit: 

——She’s someone who truly takes the “Say it Now” message to heart. I know this, because I frequently receive emails from her that might just be a line or two, but they express gratitude and they tell me why my work matters. You can imagine what a big gift this support is. Sometimes, just when I’m wondering, “Does this even matter? Am I making a difference?” then boom — I will receive a happy/grateful note from Birgit.

——Birgit is creating a body of work devoted to helping others feel more aligned with who they really are and to experience more bliss and flow in life. She’s using her creative and coaching talents to create even more light and love. And boy oh boy, does the world need that, right?

I’m fortunate and honored that Birgit has chosen to include me in her current offering, The Bliss Project. Birgit is hosting a live workshop followed by ten interviews about bliss and aligning with purpose. (I get to speak about my favorite topics — appreciation, joy, love, and creativity!)

The Bliss Project runs from June 21-27. And not only is the event free for everyone to attend — thank you, Birgit!— but also, when you register, you are given the opportunity to sign up for a 30-minute Clarity Call with Birgit. That call is also absolutely free. 

I wanted to experience the call for myself, so this past week I signed up and had my Clarity Call. I had been feeling terribly confused and tangled up about something in my business, so I chose that to talk about.

Birgit, in her gentle and compassionate way, helped me to do exactly what she promises — align with my purpose and get in the flow. By the end of the call, I had made an important decision that would untangle me. And I outlined the next three steps.

This was so liberating for me! I’d been snarled and stuck for several weeks. Birgit offered me that gift of time and conversation and it made a huge difference.

Birgit’s Bliss Project is starting soon. Here’s where you can find out more. When you register, you’ll see her offer for the free Clarity Call like the one I experienced.

When you have your call with Birgit, be sure to CONGRATULATE her for being my very first Celebration Superstar!

Have a wonderful day. Be sure to look for (or create) moments of bliss for yourself or others. And after you watch the interview with Birgit and me in her Bliss Project, please let me know what your biggest takeaways were. I sure would love to hear — it means so much to me.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry



Birgit’s Creative Love Lists! 

LoveGram: Tiny Matters


Hello, my dear friend.

Today’s LoveGram is all about “tiny matters.” It is about small spaces of time in which we can plant seeds for who we want to be and how we want to feel.

I just set my timer for five minutes. I want to show what is possible in such a little space of time.

For me, connecting with you has been hugely important, especially during this pandemic. I’ve been creating these 15-minute audios for almost a year now and I see how much they’ve supported me. (And hopefully they’ve helped you, too!)

We can set the intention to connect in a new way with someone we love. Just like I’m doing with you, you can do this with others. 

Maybe read a passage from a book out loud. Share a song that touched you. Invite someone in your house to dance for two minutes.

Create something fresh and new.

And you can do it in minutes.

(Note: my timer is at 1:28 right now … look how much I could say in a few minutes!)

Today’s LoveGram is posted on this page. Click to get it! 

Let yourself plant some seeds for a dream you want to grow. 

Try a new practice that takes five minutes or less, okay? (I’m down to 29 seconds!)

Thanks for being by my side.

I’m here for you, too.

We can live and love in new ways, in minutes. 

“Time is on our side. Yes, it is.”

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

Connect with people you love


For those of you who are in the United States, I wish you a beautiful Thanksgiving week. I know this is a challenging time for many of us who can’t be with the people we love because of the pandemic. Our traditions and rituals are either altered or impossible this year. 

However, that doesn’t mean that we can’t still find meaningful and joyful ways to show our love and gratitude to friends and family.  

Below are some simple ways you can connect and celebrate, even from afar! 

Set aside some time on Thursday or Friday (what I call “The New Black” Friday) and choose one thing from this list and commit to it. I promise, you will be glad you did!  

🍁 Phone ’em  

Choose an hour or two to do nothing but dial phone numbers of people you love and miss. Surprise them with a phone call simply to say, “I’m thinking of you and wish I could be there in person, but I want you to know how much you matter to me.” For added zing, play them a song (your own instrument or something from a playlist) that has meaning to you both or invite others in your household to chime via speaker phone.  

🍁Share photos

Dig through your old photos — printed or digital— and find one (or many!) from a previous Thanksgiving in which you got to be in person with loved ones. Text, email, or mail a copy of that photo to someone in it and share a single line about your memory. If you are meeting people on a video call, you can bring a printed photo to show them. Sharing visual memories is a great way to relive them! 

🍁Show they matter 

Every year on the Friday after Thanksgiving, I encourage people to spend at least part of the day staying home and making Love List Gifts — gifts made from lists of specific reasons you love someone! I always host a workshop to offer prompts and presentation tips. This year, I’m hosting my workshop through the Reimagine Gratitude Gathering. You can register for “Gift of Love: Gratitude in Action here. More information down below my signature. 

🍁Get inspired  

Last week, I facilitated an author panel called “On Being Glad and Grateful.” During our hour together, Irene O’Garden, Ronnie Walter, and I shared some ideas for how to celebrate Thanksgiving in new ways during this pandemic.  Watch the replay of “On Being Glad and Grateful.”

I send you virtual hugs of big Thanksgiving love! May you feel love, connection, and joy no matter with you are or who you are with. Know that I am walking this path with you! 

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

P.S. Here’s the link to my Reimagine Workshop, Gifts of Love: Gratitude in Action on Friday, November  27th at 10am PST/1pm EST, sliding scale pricing starting from $0-100. 

P.P.S. Maybe you want to connect with someone you love this weekend, but it is difficult for some reason? We can do our best to show up for the people we love — even when we are struggling to connect or when someone is going through something so unimaginable we don’t know what to do. Here’s a link to my 20-minute Facebook Live conversation with author Marlena Fiol about “Showing up for People — Even in Difficult Times.” 

What Alison Had to Say …

My friend, Alison Luterman, is an amazing poet and human being. She is authentic, warm, kind, and caring. She is devoted to her writing and performance as a career, which means that she spends a lot of time working in solitude.

A couple weeks ago, Alison wrote a newsletter article about the importance of connection. I was honored to be featured in that piece. But more importantly, I was so touched by Alison’s insights into how crucial it is that people reach out to one another.

Here’s just a small excerpt from her article, but I hope you’ll read the whole thing:

What meant the most to me about her kind gesture was the reminder of being connected even though our lives are busy and we don’t see each other in person very much … Left to my own devices I can create all kinds of imaginary borders and walls between my self and others. I can worry at small differences like a dog with a bone until the hole overwhelms the whole. Lucky that life comes hammering on my door anyway, or arrives magically through the mail slot.

We never know what someone else might be going through — what sense of disconnection, disappointment, loss, or separation. Reaching out to send a note of love and support is an easy way, as Alison says, to remind someone that we are connected.

We need that.

We all need to feel like we’re held in a wide net of love. It’s part of the joy of being human.

Can you take a moment to read Alison’s short essay and then consider who might need to feel connected to YOU? Will you write them a line or two and put it in the mail? It might be exactly what they need! (And, secret sauce: offering the gesture of love could be exactly what YOU need!)

xo Sherry

P.S. If you click to Alison’s newsletter, you will also have the beautiful treat of one of her poems, $18.88, which is sure to make you smile.

P.P.S. Here’s another way to bring joy in an easy way! Wanna be a Secret Agent of Change and complete missions of kindness every day for seven days? Join our 7-Day Challenge! Operation Love begins on February 17th!