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LoveGram: Sad?

 

Hey there, beautiful friend!

Welcome to your Sunday audio LoveGram. 

Today’s LoveGram is all about how we take care of ourselves if/when we wake up into feeling sadness or anxiety.

Many of you know that I’m no stranger to swimming around in the dark. Everything I do — all of the celebration, love, mindfulness, and appreciation practices — have grown from the darkest, hardest time of my life.

While thankfully, a lot has changed thanks to 30 years of these practices, I was just saying to someone that I still often wake up into that darkness.

(Just to clarify: I don’t mean the darkness due to Daylight Saving time! I mean the kind of darkness caused by challenging physical sensations (anxiety or fear!) or thoughts in my head (“you’re too ___; you’re not ___ enough. You should ___. You shouldn’t ___”)

I realized that unless I talk about this more, people will think I just bound out of bed and when I open my closets, colorful balloons stream out.

Nope. It is all practice for me.

You will hear in this audio how living my life in the tiniest slices of moments saves me from the big, scary pit over and over again.

I look for (or create) a pinprick of light as if my life depended on it. Because you know what? It does.

(To listen to the audio, just click over to this page, scroll down, and hit “play” on the audio player.)

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Some people wake up and exuberantly launch themselves into their days. That’s not me. That’s okay.

If it isn’t you, that’s okay, too!

That’s why we have so many practices to help us lift ourselves up!

I share more into today’s audio.

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I see you.

I see your sweet, yearning heart. 

I see the way you do good things.

I see the ways you care and how you offer love. 

As always, I’m grateful to you for being on this journey with me.

As Ram Dass says, “We are all just walking each other home.”

You don’t have to do it alone! 

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

 P.S. In my audio, I mention the Mango Publishing Heart Wisdom Panel called “Navigating Grief During the Holidays.” If you are suffering from loss of any kind, you will find this so helpful. Lots of practical tips! 

P.P.S My book, “Say it Now,”  is currently on sale for for 30% off at the publisher’s website until January 31st. Grab a copy for yourself or as a gift (or stocking stuffer!) in time for the holidays! There are 33 creative and clever (not crafty!) ideas for meaningful gifts they will talk about forever! 

 

LoveGram: Love in Action

 

Hey there, beautiful friend!

Today I send you this beautiful virtual music player and its whimsical and tender characters reminding us of how quickly times goes by.

I send you its mother duck and ducklings, its stooped-over grandma, and the couple who meet on a park bench and spend their lives together.

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Welcome to your Sunday audio LoveGram.

The music you hear at the start of your audio LoveGram is that music box, by Jane Bordeaux.

Today’s LoveGram is just about ten minutes, a little shorter than usual, because for many people in the United States this is Thanksgiving Week. That means, extra travel, extra connections, extra cooking.

So, my message is a tad shorter, but as much from my heart as always.

(To listen to the audio, just click over to this page, scroll down, and hit “play” on the audio player.)

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On Friday, I had the pleasure of offering a workshop to forty-plus really wonderful women. We explored the topic I shared with you last week, “How to Make the Holidays Your Own.”

One of things that touched me the most is the people who said to me afterward, “Thank you. I needed permission to make the holidays a little less stressful and a lot more meaningful for myself. Reflecting on this gave me some ideas to talk to my family about.”

That’s what I am hoping for YOU. Remember that this is YOUR life and you can be the one to initiate conversations with your family and friends about what you need!

If you missed that LoveGram, you can listen here. Or, you can read an article I published. (Make sure you journal about the questions in there!)

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If you listen to this week’s LoveGram, you will hear more about this. But also, about a new favorite topic of mine: “Yes is not theoretical,” which I learned from my Zen Sangha this week.

Love is not passive. It is an action word. This week, as you connecting with family and friends, I hope you will be intentional about who you are, how you show up, and what you bring to the table.

(Ha Ha, I wrote that and immediately thought PIE! But really, I meant the metaphorical table!)

I explain more in the audio!

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Sending gratitude to you for who you are.

I see you.

I see your generous heart. 

I see the ways you care and how you offer love. 

As always, I’m grateful to you for being on this journey with me.

As Ram Dass says, “We are all just walking each other home.”

You don’t have to do it alone! 

We are here, together.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. Oh! Here’s the workshop I mentioned in today’s audio! It is hosted by a wonderful organization, Reimagine. We’re celebrating The New Black Friday! Bring your children, family, or BFF’s! Come in your pajamas and put LOVE INTO ACTION!

LoveGram: Show Up, Love!

Hello beautiful friend.

Welcome to your Sunday audio LoveGram.

Today I send you a listening ear.

I send you a whispered, “yes.”

I send you a a kitten, a ball of yellow yarn, and some accordion music.

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In today’s LoveGram, we are talking about how we can give people what they want most in the world: our full attention.

We’re talking about some simple things to do that will show you’re listening and that you care.

We’re talking, as we often are, about how to love better!

(To listen to the audio, just click over to this page, scroll down, and hit “play” on the audio player.)

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You know me. I love to talk about creative gift giving. I love to offer ideas of fun things we can do and make and experience as gifts to others.

But you know what? The simplest and easiest gift is to BE PRESENT!!!

It sounds so obvious, but the question is, do we practice it?

We must! In earnest!

Because — the people in our lives deserve it!

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[Spoiler Alert]

I know some of you love to listen to the audio, but others prefer to read. There’s always so much more in the audio— music, laughter, glitches, subtleties! But if you must rush, here are your CliffsNotes!

Simple Ways to Show Up and Show You Care:

  • Schedule time with people you love. (Or, stop what you are doing when they walk in the room!)
  • Clear your mind before meeting them or take a deep breath to center yourself when they show up.
  • Put your phone down — or away!
  • Greet them with joy.
  • Look in their eyes.
  • Don’t fiddle.
  • Don’t interrupt.
  • Nod or make agreeing kinds of sounds.
  • Say, “this is so interesting!” or “I love that!”
  • Say, “tell me more!”
  • Keep the conversation flowing in the direction they were going!

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Thank you for being here and showing up because you care.

Listen to your audio LoveGram now.

Thank you for your generous heart and kind spirit.

I see you!

Thank you for wanting to love and be loved as best you can.

I’m grateful to be on this journey with you.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

LoveGram: This is not an easy topic.

Hello beautiful friend. 

Welcome to your Sunday audio LoveGram

Today’s LoveGram comes to you from Oakland, California where I’m in the midst of a three-day slumber party with a couple of girlfriends, Alison Luterman and Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer. 

Both of them are writers and extraordinarily intentional about their lives and their relationships. I knew I wanted to have them as special guests on my LoveGram — but didn’t know exactly what the topic would be. 

However, as it turns out, when we first got together, our conversation turned to grief. This seemed like a good conversation to share with you. 

I realize this is not a light nor breezy topic. But I feel it is an important and necessary one. 

Thus, in today’s LoveGram, we are talking about this challenging, yet powerful, topic: how to be with one another in times of loss and grief. 

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If we want to have deep, meaningful, and connected relationships in our lives, we have to learn how to be together in the hardest of times. 

We have to learn how to ask for support, allow support, and give support. 

But most of us weren’t taught how to do this! 

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I’ve been hosting weekly groups called Grief + Growth, in which we talk about aspects of grief. In the most recent one, last Thursday afternoon, one of the participants asked if anyone else had close friends and family who had abandoned them in times of grief. 

Almost everyone in the group raised their hand in an acknowledgement.

I’ve been thinking about this a lot. How can we open ourselves up to learning about ways to show up for each other even when it is hard and we may feel inadequate? 

  (To listen to the audio, just click over to this page, scroll down, and hit “play” on the audio player.)

 

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Here are some of the topics we cover in today’s audio LoveGram: 

* Some of the reasons why we may not show up for people we love when they are grieving — or why they aren’t there for us. 

* What to say or do. And, how to be with someone grieving or challenged by loss. 

* What to do or how to get support for ourselves when we need it. 

Grief is a part of life. We are all going to experience it. Talking about it together can help us learn how to ask for the support we need and to give support to people we love. 

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Thank you for being here and showing up for all of it — for the ups and downs and everything in between. 

When we are open to celebrating ALL of life, it allows us the spaciousness to find connection and meaning even in the hardest of times. 

Listen to your audio LoveGram now

Thank you for your beautiful heart. 

Thank you for wanting to love and be loved as best you can. 

I’m grateful to be on this journey with you. 

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. Ali and Rosemerry are both phenomenal women and beautiful creatives. You can learn more about Alison’s work here. And Rosemerry’s work here

P.P.S. Just a reminder that any loss in your life can be filled with grief — death, illness, divorce, miscarriage, empty nest, alienation from a friend, etc. If you feel something as grief, I hope you honor it and seek support. 

P.P.P.S. See our sweaters in the photo up above? Did you notice that they all have the words “faerie lights” embroidered on them? Rosemerry did that! These sweaters were an oh-so-special surprise gift with beautiful, personal meaning to us! The last time we three were together, we made up a “band name” for ourselves, The Faerie Lights. Rosemerry took that fun detail/memory and made a “Say it Now” kinda gift. Note: That thoughtful gift inspired us to make up silly songs all weekend long, pretending they were for our first album. It’s been so much fun! Think about how you can do something like this as a creative gift for someone in your life!

LoveGram: What’s to Celebrate?

 

Hello beautiful friend. 

Welcome to your Sunday audio LoveGram

Today I send you tiki lamps, string lights, and sunflowers. 

I send you a gal in a pink wig and a guy in a pork pie hat on a green tandem bike. 

I send you cream-colored vintage luggage on the steps of a blue and red cottage. 

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In today’s LoveGram, we are talking about something the world really needs right now: celebration and play! 

In my audio, I share with you some insights I had after making a list of some “must-haves” for my birthday last week. I hadn’t realized that these weren’t just fun party things, they were truly an elixir for my spirit. 

(To listen to the audio, just click over to this page, scroll down, and hit “play” on the audio player.)

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Here’s what I want you to know: 

Celebration isn’t just for birthdays or other special occasions. 

Celebration doesn’t have to be earned. 

Celebration isn’t just for when we’re feeling happy. 

Celebration is essential for us to create meaning in our lives and to make moments memorable. 

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After the last two years of so much grief, loss, and disappointment, it is time for us to bring some play and celebration to ourselves and others. 

How will you do that? 

Here are a few questions that may spark some thoughts on your own brand of celebration:

  • When was the last time you celebrated something?
  • What needs to happen for you to plan a celebration? 
  • What kinds of things help you to feel celebratory?
  • What settings feel like a celebration? 
  • Who are your favorite people to celebrate with?
  • Have you ever celebrated something or someone when you were sad? 
  • In the next two weeks, what celebration is coming up? How will you plan for it? 
  • Would you consider celebrating “just because?” What would that look like? 

 

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I today’s audio I share more ideas with you about creating memorable moments for yourself and people you love.

Listen to your audio LoveGram now! 

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Be willing to step out of the same-ole, same-ole and create some magic. 

You will be so happy that you did! 

I can’t wait to hear!! 

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. Save the date for Saturday, October 15th at 9am PT/12n ET for our next Secret Agents of Change Mission. Make sure you are signed up on our email list so you receive the information on how to participate. 

LoveGram: Surprise someone with this!

Hey there, beautiful friend!

Today I send you a striped, multi-colored croquet set, ready for play.

I send you a man wearing an orange beret, riding a green bicycle with a small dog in the basket.

I send you a hummingbird, right outside of the window, like she’s saying “Wheeee!”

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Welcome to your Sunday audio LoveGram.

In today’s LoveGram, we are continuing our conversation about how to be the one to deepen and elevate your relationships.

Hey — I just noticed those two words: going deep or going higher. Creating more meaning and also more lightness!

This is a new phase in the world and it is time for us to acknowledge that relationships are essential to our well-being and our sense of belonging in the world.

Relationships help us grow.

They challenge us to see more, experience more, and feel more!

Listen to today’s Audio LoveGram all about this topic.

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Two weeks ago, in a LoveGram called “Be The One,” we explored ways to begin conversations so our connection would be uplifting and would cultivate positive feelings. (Instead of connecting via complaint, which can be an unconscious habit for many of us!)

Last week, we explored how to “Press the Pause Button” when we are hurt or feeling angry so that we could intentionally choose to come from a place of love.

Today, we are talking about creating a container that encourages simple adventure, play, and novelty.

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In today’s audio LoveGram, I tell you a story about going to an Open House with my beau, Ian. We aren’t looking to buy a house and we actually never stepped foot into that house for sale, however, driving to that Open House was like a mini road trip!

Simply by “putting a frame around it” or “creating a container” we experienced our time together in an entirely new way. It was amazing!

Instead of simply driving back to his house, which is what we had been doing, suddenly everything seemed technicolor and fascinating.

Look at that! Look at that! We saw all kinds of interesting things as we circled the streets, in search of this Open House.

As it turned out, the Open House was closed by the time we arrived. Haha.

However, we parked in front of it and turned that closed Open House into more novelty for ourselves.

Listen to the LoveGram to hear what we did, because this is something I want YOU to do!!

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I give you several variations on this “adventure” because I want you to commit to something like this with someone in your life.

The next time you and your spouse or child or BFF are slated to spend some time together, I want you to turn the ordinary into something extraordinary.

I give you some simple ideas that don’t cost any money or require any special landscape! Listen to today’s audio, create some novelty, then please email me and let me know how it went!!

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I know you. I see your generous heart.

I know you want to bring more life into your life.

I applaud you for being this kind of person. The people in your life love you for this, too.

Be intentional.

Be courageous.

Be willing to step out of the same-ole, same-ole and create a magical moment.

You will be so happy that you did!

I can’t wait to hear!!

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. Here’s a link to the Coldplay song, “Adventure of a Lifetime.”

LoveGram: Be the One!

 

Hello beautiful friend.

Welcome to your Sunday audio LoveGram.

This week, we’re looking at the willingness (and courage!) to be the person to take relationships to deeper, more meaningful levels.

My mentor, Brendon Burchard expresses this as “be the one to elevate your relationships.”

Why?

Because there is so much more connection, joy, and meaning that we can experience if we set the intention to get more real and to go deeper with people in our lives.

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(To listen to the audio, just click over to this page, scroll down, and hit “play” on the audio player.)

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A couple weeks ago I sent you a very short video talking about how the world has shifted since the pandemic and how we’ve all really “gotten it” in our bones that our relationships are the real priority in our lives.

If you missed that five-minute video, here it is!

It’s time to focus on our friends and family even more. 

It’s time to love more deeply. 

It’s time to bring more magic, sparkle, and novelty to our relationships so they feel even more meaningful than ever! 

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In today’s audio, we talk about how to do this, especially at the start of a conversation or the beginning of a visit with someone.

Here are just a few idea for questions you can use to spark uplifting and connecting conversations with people:

  • What is something beautiful you saw or experienced today?
  • Did anything out of the ordinary happen this week?
  • Did something make you laugh today?
  • What did you love best about your week?
  • Did you read or watch anything that was thought-provoking?
  • What feels juicy in your life right now?
  • Did you have any interesting conversations that inspired you?
  • What would make you feel more supported by me?

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Be the one to elevate the relationships in your life and make them deeper and more connected. Ask generative questions that spark love!

I know it might feel a little uncomfortable or vulnerable, but the payoff is worth it, I promise.

You will feel more intimacy and a closer bond. You will also be uplifted by some new ways of thinking!

And you know what? I bet the person you’re interacting with will also feel those uplifts!

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Thank you for being my friend and confidante.

You are capable of great relationships. 

You can be the one to ignite them! 

I believe in you!

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

LoveGram: Good Life

 

Hello my friend,

Welcome to this week’s LoveGram.

I send you the sound of your best friend’s voice when he answers the phone at a time when you really needed him to be there. And there he is.

Today I send you that surge of joy when you pass a baby on the street and she gives you a big toothless grin.

I send you that moment when you share a little joke with the clerk at the post office and for a moment, everything feels aligned and right.

 

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In today’s LoveGram, we talk about how to expand the definition of the word “LOVE,” so that it fills our lives in brand new ways.

We talk about those daily moments with strangers, many of which might go unnoticed, but which are filled with possibility.

(To listen to the audio, just click over to this page, scroll down, and hit “play” on the audio player.)

 

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William Butler Yeats wrote, “There are no strangers here; Only friends you haven’t yet met.”

What would the world feel like to us if we thought about that sentiment every time we left our house?

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In my LoveGram, I share with you about some experiences I had when I was traveling in Europe recently and met some amazing ordinary/extraordinary people.

I hope you’ll take 15 minutes to listen.

If you want to see some of the faces and hear some stories about the beautiful folks I met when I traveled through France, Spain, and Portugal, join me on Instagram. I’ve been sharing there and have dozens more to introduce to you!

That photo up above is Theresa, who cheerfully chose a bold red wine as my “Welcome Drink” at the Palacio Pinello hotel in Seville.  Theresa was warm and friendly. She sent me on up to the hotel’s rooftop terrace so I could sip my way ‘til sunset — with a beautiful view! The photo of me is from that rooftop, feeling ever so happy!

And I hope you’ll email me and let me know what happens when you try out my suggestion at the end of the audio LoveGram!

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I love you. I’m here with you.

Thank you for being on this journey of love, celebration, and appreciation with me.

I’m grateful for your presence in my life.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. Here’s the music video for “Good Life,” the One Republic snippet of music you hear in my audio.

LoveGram: Advance Love

 

Hello beautiful friend,

I recorded this LoveGram for you a few weeks ago. I knew I would be traveling and I didn’t want you to think I’d forgotten about you or didn’t care about you.

We do this for the people we love, right?

We try to anticipate in advance so we can remember occasions or make time together more memorable by planning something special.

We look at the calendar and see that someone’s birthday is coming up in a couple weeks, so we send them a gift to arrive in the mail in time for their special day.

We remember that someone is signing their divorce papers next Tuesday, so we call them the day before.

We buy the hard-to-find ingredients for someone’s favorite meal far in advance, so we know we have what we need when they are coming to dinner.

Thinking about someone in advance is a form of love.

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In today’s audio LoveGram, we talk about this aspect of caring deeply for our friends and family. AND, just as importantly, we talk about how to do this for ourselves.

How can we be intentional about who we are today so that we are gifting our future selves with good health, well-being, and joy?

(To listen to the audio, just click over to this page, scroll down, and hit “play” on the audio player.)

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I’m traveling to visit two very dear friends of mine, one who lives in France (Rachel) and the other in Portugal (Tamara). The day you receive this email and audio LoveGram, I will be (hopefully!) in Barcelona, having driven there with Rachel, after some time spent in Paris and Toulouse.

This morning, I made a list of all the things that I would like to have done before I leave. I looked at the calendar and scheduled them so I could space them out and not feel rushed or stressed.

Maybe you know that place in your own life where there is a big project or trip coming up and your head is filled with 1000 things you want to remember. Doesn’t it feel great when you get it all down on paper?

This is all part of taking good care of yourself and thinking of yourself in advance!

It feels really good to be writing this today, knowing that when I am traveling I will think of you and smile, knowing I scheduled some love in advance.

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So, after you listen to today’s LoveGram, please pull out your calendar (or click on it, if digital!) and scan the next few weeks or months.

What birthdays are coming up that you want to be sure to remember? What big projects could use some advance planning? How could you take care of your future self who lives in May, June, or July of 2022? What would make her feel loved and cared for?

Oh, and one more thing. This is important. “Worry is not preparation.” (This is from a tee-shirt my spiritual community used to sell!). What I’m talking to you about is not getting anxious or worrying about the future.

It is simply planning, calmly and with great love, to take care of yourself and the people in your life.

Sending love to you today, and to your future self, too!

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Little by little, we see and learn more about how to live and love more deeply.

Thank you for being here.

You are not alone.

Thank you for the ways you practice love.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. If this email arrives at a time when there is something big/hard happening in the world, and it seems as if I am insensitive to that, please know that I recorded and scheduled this for you way in advance.

P.P.S. Part of loving your future self is planning wonderful things for that person. Keep your eyes open for something fun that you can put on your calendar and that will delight the future you!

 

 

{Uplift gifts} Some weekend LOVE in baskets or breakfasts!

 

 

If you celebrate Easter — or even if you don’t!— you can make this weekend even sweeter by adding eggstra love.

For this uplifting and joyful gift you just need a basket and some of those plastic, fillable eggs or an empty egg carton and some chocolate eggs.

Whichever you choose, you’re gonna fill it with a whole bunch of nondenominational sweetness and LOVE.

And, listen, my friend… if you live alone, I am challenging you to create this for yourself! See my P.S. below!

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Make ’em a LOVE LIST basket or LOVE LIST carton!

What’s a Love List? You know how people tell all those great stories + appreciations at funerals? A Love List is a way to SAY IT NOW.

It is a brainstorm of all the reasons you love someone and what makes them unique. It’s what you appreciate. This list can be sweet, funny, sexy, or serious. It can include any number of loving attributes, characteristics, or memories about someone. It is a simple idea with a profound impact.

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The LOVE LIST Basket:

Below are some step-by-step basket instructions to make it super simple — you can easily do this last-minute! (Scroll down past my signature for the step-by-step basket graphic!)

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The LOVE LIST Carton:

Here’s what you do. Get some small plastic eggs that people put in Easter baskets. But instead, you are going to put yours in an empty egg carton! You’re still going to put the Love List strips inside. But this way, it isn’t Easter, it is just because!

How fun would it be to do this for someone you live with? You put the carton in the fridge and wait til they discover your surprise! (Just make sure you have some real eggs around in case they were super hungry for an omelette!)

Scroll down past the Easter graphic to see a photo of the egg carton LOVE LIST!

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Remember, my friend, even if you don’t celebrate Easter, you can STILL use this weekend to express your love to someone in your life.

Why not, right?!

Everyone needs to know WHY they are loved and WHY they matter.

Try to add that in the mix as often as you can, okay?!

Not only will this uplift others and help them feel more appreciated, it will change YOUR life. You will feel a greater sense of vitality and joy. 

I promise. 

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Making these kinds of “I see you” gifts for others has literally changed the shape of my life. My connections to people have deepened over the years.

I feel more positive because I am on the lookout for things to love about people.

It is a lifestyle that we can choose. 

I want this for you, too. 

Hope you will try this for someone you love.

Seek celebration — even in dark corners,

xo Sherry

 

P.S. Live alone? I challenge you to make one of these LOVE LIST gifts for yourself. YEP! I mean it. You make think that sounds silly or pathetic … but what it really is, is loving, strong, capable, and incredibly important. If we would all spend just a little more time loving ourselves as much as we love others, the world would be kinder and gentler.  I want to receive an email from you after you create this for yourself, okay? Send me a photo and tell me a little story about how it felt to make and receive. It will truly be a big gift to ME!!!

P.P.S. There are LOTS more creative gift ideas like this in my book, “Say it Now!”

 

 

 

 

 

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