LoveGram: Advance love for your future self.07-25-2022
Today I send you a love letter you mail to yourself.
I send you clean sheets that smell like lilac, which you luxuriate in when you crawl into bed, exhausted.
I send you a song on the radio, one that you love from long ago, which you hear unexpectedly, and it brings a smile to your face.
Welcome to your weekly audio LoveGram.
In today’s LoveGram, we talk about some ways to think about how we can support our future self, especially if there might be bumpy roads ahead.
How can we prepare in advance to offer unbounded support and extra special attention to the self who may need it?
(To listen to the audio, just click over to this page, scroll down, and hit “play” on the audio player.)
You can be on the offensive by declaring this a new chapter. Name it for yourself. Plan it.
Or, if it isn’t yet time for the new chapter, let this be an official period of transition/grief.
Don’t push yourself to go too quickly through your experience. It is so essential that we feel our feelings and process whatever loss or hardship is alive in us right now. There’s no rush. Be human!
You’ll hear in today’s LoveGram that I’m kinda doing both at once! I’m letting myself feel everything that wants to run through me, whenever it arises. I’m reaching out to friends and leaning in on their love.
AND, I’m setting up an autumn “Advance Love” program for myself.
I’ve created a list of books I want to read that I know will support the ways I want to grieve and grow. I’ve listed a few projects that I will complete. I’ve also made a list of some new skills I want to learn. And finally, I’ve brainstormed some ways I can be out in the real world, meeting people live again and volunteering.
Here are some ways you can plan to love yourself — now, next week, or next month— whenever it is time for the next stage of your healing:
- Buy a beautiful journal for yourself that you will fill with love.
- Make some audio recordings that let that future you know you care and understand.
- Make a playlist of comforting or uplifting music.
- Research meet-up groups where you might get to know new friends.
- Create a list of books to read that you know will support you.
- Enlist a friend for exercise accountability.
- Reach out for places to volunteer.
- Think about a musical instrument you would like to learn.
- Make a list of projects that would feel great to complete.
- List places you’d like to clear free of clutter.
My dear friend, I know that the past two years have been filled with grief, loss, loneliness, fear, and disappointment.
I also know that this is exactly why we all must fortify ourselves.
This is why we must offer ourselves unlimited kindness now — and why we must plan advance love, too!
Seek celebration — even in dark corners,