LoveGram: Advance Love04-25-2022
Hello beautiful friend,
I recorded this LoveGram for you a few weeks ago. I knew I would be traveling and I didn’t want you to think I’d forgotten about you or didn’t care about you.
We do this for the people we love, right?
We try to anticipate in advance so we can remember occasions or make time together more memorable by planning something special.
We look at the calendar and see that someone’s birthday is coming up in a couple weeks, so we send them a gift to arrive in the mail in time for their special day.
We remember that someone is signing their divorce papers next Tuesday, so we call them the day before.
We buy the hard-to-find ingredients for someone’s favorite meal far in advance, so we know we have what we need when they are coming to dinner.
Thinking about someone in advance is a form of love.
In today’s audio LoveGram, we talk about this aspect of caring deeply for our friends and family. AND, just as importantly, we talk about how to do this for ourselves.
How can we be intentional about who we are today so that we are gifting our future selves with good health, well-being, and joy?
(To listen to the audio, just click over to this page, scroll down, and hit “play” on the audio player.)
I’m traveling to visit two very dear friends of mine, one who lives in France (Rachel) and the other in Portugal (Tamara). The day you receive this email and audio LoveGram, I will be (hopefully!) in Barcelona, having driven there with Rachel, after some time spent in Paris and Toulouse.
This morning, I made a list of all the things that I would like to have done before I leave. I looked at the calendar and scheduled them so I could space them out and not feel rushed or stressed.
Maybe you know that place in your own life where there is a big project or trip coming up and your head is filled with 1000 things you want to remember. Doesn’t it feel great when you get it all down on paper?
This is all part of taking good care of yourself and thinking of yourself in advance!
It feels really good to be writing this today, knowing that when I am traveling I will think of you and smile, knowing I scheduled some love in advance.
So, after you listen to today’s LoveGram, please pull out your calendar (or click on it, if digital!) and scan the next few weeks or months.
What birthdays are coming up that you want to be sure to remember? What big projects could use some advance planning? How could you take care of your future self who lives in May, June, or July of 2022? What would make her feel loved and cared for?
Oh, and one more thing. This is important. “Worry is not preparation.” (This is from a tee-shirt my spiritual community used to sell!). What I’m talking to you about is not getting anxious or worrying about the future.
It is simply planning, calmly and with great love, to take care of yourself and the people in your life.
Sending love to you today, and to your future self, too!
Little by little, we see and learn more about how to live and love more deeply.
Thank you for being here.
You are not alone.
Thank you for the ways you practice love.
Seek celebration — even in dark corners,
P.S. If this email arrives at a time when there is something big/hard happening in the world, and it seems as if I am insensitive to that, please know that I recorded and scheduled this for you way in advance.
P.P.S. Part of loving your future self is planning wonderful things for that person. Keep your eyes open for something fun that you can put on your calendar and that will delight the future you!